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diff --git a/notes/a-monks-guide-to-happiness.html b/notes/a-monks-guide-to-happiness.html index d642ce73..0969fbe4 100644 --- a/notes/a-monks-guide-to-happiness.html +++ b/notes/a-monks-guide-to-happiness.html @@ -8,11 +8,11 @@ <link rel="stylesheet" href="style-override.css" /> </head> <body> -<h1 style='display: inline' id='AMonksGuidetoHappinessbooknotes'>"A Monk's Guide to Happiness" book notes</h1><br /> +<h1 style='display: inline' id='a-monks-guide-to-happiness-book-notes'>"A Monk's Guide to Happiness" book notes</h1><br /> <br /> <span class='quote'>Last updated 21.5.2023</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='UnderstandingHappiness'>Understanding Happiness</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='understanding-happiness'>Understanding Happiness</h2><br /> <br /> <ul> <li>Happiness is a skill we can train. </li> @@ -20,7 +20,7 @@ <li>Feel free now. No urge about past and future. </li> <li>We can learn to produce our own happiness independently of physical needs. When we walk in a park, how do we feel? We can train to reproduce that feeling independently. </li> </ul><br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='TheRoleofMeditation'>The Role of Meditation</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='the-role-of-meditation'>The Role of Meditation</h2><br /> <br /> <ul> <li>Meditation is not about clearing your mind. A busy mind has nothing to do with interfering with your meditation.</li> @@ -30,7 +30,7 @@ <li>Have a baseline for time to build up discipline.</li> <li>We don't need to do anything about stress, just take a step back.</li> </ul><br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='ManagingThoughtsandEmotions'>Managing Thoughts and Emotions</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='managing-thoughts-and-emotions'>Managing Thoughts and Emotions</h2><br /> <br /> <ul> <li>Our flow of emotions is really just habits. That can be changed through training, e.g., meditation training.</li> @@ -39,7 +39,7 @@ <li>Thoughts are friends and not enemies. </li> <li>Thoughts help the meditation as they make us notice that we wandered off, and therefore, we strengthen the reflection.</li> </ul><br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='PracticeandDiscipline'>Practice and Discipline</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='practice-and-discipline'>Practice and Discipline</h2><br /> <br /> <ul> <li>The importance of habits to practice mindfulness. Bring mindfulness into the daily practice.</li> @@ -49,7 +49,7 @@ <li>Practice staying fully present in an uncomfortable situation and without judgement.</li> <li>Don't become two persons who never meet: the meditator and the not meditator. So integrate mindfulness during the day too.</li> </ul><br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='PerspectivesonRelationshipsandInteractions'>Perspectives on Relationships and Interactions</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='perspectives-on-relationships-and-interactions'>Perspectives on Relationships and Interactions</h2><br /> <br /> <ul> <li>Who is the opponent? The other person. The things he said or our reactions to things? Forgiveness is a high form of compassion.</li> @@ -58,7 +58,7 @@ <li>People don't have a masterplan to destroy others, even if it seems so. They are under strong bad influence by themselves. Something terrible happened to them. Revenge makes no sense.</li> <li>Be grateful for people "trying" to hurt you as they help you to practice your path.</li> </ul><br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='ReflectiveQuestions'>Reflective Questions</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='reflective-questions'>Reflective Questions</h2><br /> <br /> <ul> <li> Why do I do all the things I do? What do I try to achieve?</li> @@ -67,7 +67,7 @@ <li> What are the real causes of happiness and suffering?</li> <li> What about meditation? How does that address the situation?</li> </ul><br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='MiscellaneousGuidelines'>Miscellaneous Guidelines</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='miscellaneous-guidelines'>Miscellaneous Guidelines</h2><br /> <br /> <ul> <li> Posture is important as the mind and body are connected.</li> diff --git a/notes/career-guide-and-soft-skills.html b/notes/career-guide-and-soft-skills.html index 4566f485..4b2ba916 100644 --- a/notes/career-guide-and-soft-skills.html +++ b/notes/career-guide-and-soft-skills.html @@ -8,7 +8,7 @@ <link rel="stylesheet" href="style-override.css" /> </head> <body> -<h1 style='display: inline' id='SoftwareDevelopmersCareerGuideandSoftSkillsbooknotes'>"Software Developmers Career Guide and Soft Skills" book notes</h1><br /> +<h1 style='display: inline' id='software-developmers-career-guide-and-soft-skills-book-notes'>"Software Developmers Career Guide and Soft Skills" book notes</h1><br /> <br /> <span class='quote'>Published at 2023-07-17T04:56:20+03:00</span><br /> <br /> @@ -26,9 +26,9 @@ ''' </pre> <br /> -<h1 style='display: inline' id='Improve'>Improve</h1><br /> +<h1 style='display: inline' id='improve'>Improve</h1><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='Alwayslearnnewthings'>Always learn new things</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='always-learn-new-things'>Always learn new things</h2><br /> <br /> <span>When you learn something new, e.g. a programming language, first gather an overview, learn from multiple sources, play around and learn by doing and not consuming and form your own questions. Don't read too much upfront. A large amount of time is spent in learning technical skills which were never use. You want to have a practical set of skills you are actually using. You need to know 20 percent to get out 80 percent of the results.</span><br /> <br /> @@ -46,11 +46,11 @@ <br /> <span>Boot camps: The advantage of a boot camp is to pragmatically learn things fast. We almost always overestimate what we can do in a day. Especially during boot camps. Connect to others during the boot camps</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='Setgoals'>Set goals</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='set-goals'>Set goals</h2><br /> <br /> <span>Your own goals are important but the manager also looks at how the team performs and how someone can help the team perform better. Check whether you are on track with your goals every 2 weeks in order to avoid surprises for the annual review. Make concrete goals for next review. Track and document your progress. Invest in your education. Make your goals known. If you want something, then ask for it. Nobody but you knows what you want.</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='Ratings'>Ratings</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='ratings'>Ratings</h2><br /> <br /> <span>That's a trap: If you have to rate yourself, that's a trap. That never works in an unbiased way. Rate yourself always the best way but rate your weakest part as high as possible minus one point. Rate yourself as good as you can otherwise. Nobody is putting for fun a gun on his own head. </span><br /> <br /> @@ -58,7 +58,7 @@ <li>Don't do peer rating, it can fire back on you. What if the colleague becomes your new boss?</li> <li>Cooperate rankings are unfortunately HR guidelines and politics and only mirror a little your actual performance.</li> </ul><br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='Promotions'>Promotions</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='promotions'>Promotions</h2><br /> <br /> <span>The most valuable employees are the ones who make themselves obsolete and automate all away. Keep a safety net of 3 to 6 months of finances. Safe at least 10 percent of your earnings. Also, if you make money it does not mean that you have to spent more money. Is a new car better than a used car which both can bring you from A to B? Liability vs assets.</span><br /> <br /> @@ -71,7 +71,7 @@ <li>If you want a raise be specific how much and know to back your demands. Don't make a thread and no ultimatums.</li> <li>Best way for a promotion is to switch jobs. You can even switch back with a better salary.</li> </ul><br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='Finishthings'>Finish things</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='finish-things'>Finish things</h2><br /> <br /> <span>Hard work is necessary for accomplish results. However, work smarter not harder. Furthermore, working smart is not a substitute for working hard. Work both, hard and smart.</span><br /> <br /> @@ -86,7 +86,7 @@ <br /> <span>Defeat is finally give up. Failure is the road to success, embrace it. Failure does not define you but how you respond to it. Events don't make your unhappy, but how you react to events do.</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='Expandtheempire'>Expand the empire</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='expand-the-empire'>Expand the empire</h2><br /> <br /> <span>The larger your empire is, the larger your circle of influence is. The larger the circle of influence is, the more opportunities you have.</span><br /> <br /> @@ -97,7 +97,7 @@ </ul><br /> <span>Become visible, keep track that you accomplishments. E.g. write a weekly summary. Do presentations, be seen. Learn new things and share your learnings. Be the problem solver and not the blamer.</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='Bepragmaticandalsomanageyourtime'>Be pragmatic and also manage your time</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='be-pragmatic-and-also-manage-your-time'>Be pragmatic and also manage your time</h2><br /> <br /> <span>Make use of time boxing via the Pomodoro technique: Set a target of rounds and track the rounds. That give you exact focused work time. That's really the trick. For example set a goal of 6 daily pomodores.</span><br /> <br /> @@ -107,7 +107,7 @@ </ul><br /> <span>You should feel good of the work done even if you don't finished the task. You will feel good about pomodoro wise even you don't finish the task on hand yet. Helps you to enjoy time off more. Working longer may not sell anything.</span><br /> <br /> -<h3 style='display: inline' id='Thequotasystem'>The quota system</h3><br /> +<h3 style='display: inline' id='the-quota-system'>The quota system</h3><br /> <br /> <span>Defined quota of things done. E.g. N runs per week or M Blog posts per month or O pomodoros per week. This helps with consistency. Truly commit to these quotas. Failure is not an option. Start with small commitments. Don't commit to something you can't fulfill otherwise you set yourself up for failure.</span><br /> <br /> @@ -116,7 +116,7 @@ <li>Internal motivation is more important over external motivation. Check out Daniels book drive.</li> <li>Multitasking: Batching is effective. E.g. emails twice daily at pre-set times..</li> </ul><br /> -<h3 style='display: inline' id='Dontwastetime'>Don't waste time</h3><br /> +<h3 style='display: inline' id='dont-waste-time'>Don't waste time</h3><br /> <br /> <span>The biggest time waster is TV watching. The TV is programming you. It's insane that Americans watch so much TV as they work full time. Schedule one show at a time and watch it when you want to watch it. Most movies are crap anyways. The good movies will come to you as people will talk about them.</span><br /> <br /> @@ -125,7 +125,7 @@ <li>Meetings can waste time as well. Simply don't go to them. Try to cancel meeting if it can be dealt with via email.</li> <li>Enjoying things is not a waste of time. E.g. you could still play a game once in a while. It is important not to cut away all you enjoy from your life.</li> </ul><br /> -<h3 style='display: inline' id='Habits'>Habits</h3><br /> +<h3 style='display: inline' id='habits'>Habits</h3><br /> <br /> <span>Try to have as many good habits as possible. Start with easy habits, and make them a little bit more challenging over time. Set ankers and rewards. Over time the routines will become habits naturally.</span><br /> <br /> @@ -135,7 +135,7 @@ <li>We don't have control over our habits but our own routines.</li> <li>Routines help to form the habits, though.</li> </ul><br /> -<h1 style='display: inline' id='Worklifebalance'>Work-life balance</h1><br /> +<h1 style='display: inline' id='work-life-balance'>Work-life balance</h1><br /> <br /> <span>Avoid overwork hours. That's not as beneficial as you might think and comes only with very small rewards. Invest rather in yourself and not in your employer.</span><br /> <br /> @@ -147,7 +147,7 @@ </ul><br /> <span>Use your most productive hours to work on you. Make that your priority. Take care of yourself a priority (E.g. do workouts or learn a new language). You can always workout 2 or 1 hour per day, but will you pay the price?</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='Mentalhealth'>Mental health</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='mental-health'>Mental health</h2><br /> <br /> <ul> <li>Friendships and positive thinking help to have and maintain better health, longer Life, better productivity and increased happiness.</li> @@ -158,7 +158,7 @@ <br /> <span>In most cases burnout is just an illusion. If you don't have motivation push through the wall. People usually don't pass the wall as they feel they are burned out. After pushing through the wall you will have the most fun, for example you will be able playing the guitar greatly.</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='Physicalhealth'>Physical health</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='physical-health'>Physical health</h2><br /> <br /> <span>Utilise a standing desk and treadmill (you could walk and type at the same time). Increase the incline in order to burn more calories. Even on the standing desk you burn more calories than sitting. When you use pomodoro then you can use the small breaks for push-ups (maybe won't do as good when you are in a fasted state).</span><br /> <br /> @@ -170,7 +170,7 @@ </ul><br /> <span>Intermittent fasting is an effective method to maintain weight and health. But it does not mean that you can only eat junk food in the feeding windows. Also, diet and nutrition is the most important for health and fitness. They make it also easier to stay focused and positive.</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='Nodrama'>No drama</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='no-drama'>No drama</h2><br /> <br /> <span>Avoid drama at work. Where are humans there is drama. You can decide where to spent your energy in. But don't avoid conflict. Conflict is healthy in any kind of relationship. Be tactful and state your opinion. The goal is to find the best solution to the problem.</span><br /> <br /> @@ -186,13 +186,13 @@ </ul><br /> <span>You have to learn how to work in a team. Be honest but tactful. It's not too be the loudest but about selling your ideas. Don't argue otherwise you won't sell anything. Be persuasive by finding the common ground. Or lead the colleagues to your idea and don't sell it upfront. Communicate clearly.</span><br /> <br /> -<h1 style='display: inline' id='Personalbrand'>Personal brand</h1><br /> +<h1 style='display: inline' id='personal-brand'>Personal brand</h1><br /> <br /> <ul> <li>Invest your value outside the company. Build your personal brand. Show how valuable you are, also to other companies. Become an asset.</li> <li>Invest in your education. Make your goals known. If you want something ask for it (see also the sections about goals in this document).</li> </ul><br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='Marketyourself'>Market yourself</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='market-yourself'>Market yourself</h2><br /> <br /> <ul> <li>The best way to market yourself is to make you usable.</li> @@ -205,11 +205,11 @@ <li>Have an elevator pitch: "buetow.org - Having fun with computers!"</li> <li>Have social media accounts, especially the ones which are more tech related.</li> </ul><br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='Networking'>Networking</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='networking'>Networking</h2><br /> <br /> <span>Ask people so they talk about themselves. They are not really interested in you. Use meetup.com to find groups you are interested and build up the network over time. Don't drink on social networking events even when others do. Talking to other people at events only has upsides. Just saying "hi" and introducing yourself is enough. What worse can happen? If the person rejects you so what, life goes on. Ask open questions and no "yes" and "no" questions. E.g.: "What is your story, why are you here?".</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='Publicspeaking'>Public speaking</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='public-speaking'>Public speaking</h2><br /> <br /> <span>Before your talk go on stage 10 minutes in advance. Introduce yourself to the front row people. During the talk they will smile at you and encourage you during your talk.</span><br /> <br /> @@ -219,9 +219,9 @@ </ul><br /> <span>Just do it. Just go to conferences. Even if you are not speaking. Sell your boss what you would learn and "this and that" and you would present the learnings to the team afterwards.</span><br /> <br /> -<h1 style='display: inline' id='Newjob'>New job</h1><br /> +<h1 style='display: inline' id='new-job'>New job</h1><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='Fortheinterview'>For the interview</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='for-the-interview'>For the interview</h2><br /> <br /> <ul> <li>Build up a network before the interview. E.g., follow and comment blogs. Or go to meet-ups and conferences. Join user groups.</li> @@ -230,7 +230,7 @@ </ul><br /> <span>If you are specialized then there is a better chance to get a fitting job. No one will hire a general lawyer if there are specialized lawyers available. Even if you are specialized, you will have a wide range of skills (T-shape knowledge).</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='Findtherighttypeofcompany'>Find the right type of company</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='find-the-right-type-of-company'>Find the right type of company</h2><br /> <br /> <span>Not all companies are equal. They have individual cultures and guidelines.</span><br /> <br /> @@ -242,7 +242,7 @@ </ul><br /> <span>Work in a tech. company if you want to work on/with cutting edge technologies.</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='Applyforthenewjob'>Apply for the new job</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='apply-for-the-new-job'>Apply for the new job</h2><br /> <br /> <span>Get a professional resume writer. Get referrals of writers and get samples from there. Get sufficient with algorithm and data structures interview questions. Cracking the coding interview book and blog </span><br /> <br /> @@ -255,7 +255,7 @@ </ul><br /> <span>Invest in your dress code as appearance masters. It does make sense to invest in your style. You could even hire a professional stylist (not my personal way though).</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='Negotiation'>Negotiation</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='negotiation'>Negotiation</h2><br /> <br /> <ul> <li>Whoever names the number first loses. You don't know what someone else is expecting unless told. Low ball number may be an issue but you have to know the market.</li> @@ -273,21 +273,21 @@ <ul> <li>Never spilt the difference is the best book for learning negotiation techniques..</li> </ul><br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='Leavingtheoldjob'>Leaving the old job</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='leaving-the-old-job'>Leaving the old job</h2><br /> <br /> <span>When leaving a job make a clean and non personal as possible. Never complain and never explain. Don't worry about abandonment of the team. Everybody is replacement and you make a business decision. Don't threaten to quit as you are replaceable.</span><br /> <br /> -<h1 style='display: inline' id='Otherthings'>Other things</h1><br /> +<h1 style='display: inline' id='other-things'>Other things</h1><br /> <br /> <ul> <li>As a leader lead by example and don't lead from the Eiffel tower.</li> <li>As a leader you are responsible for the team. If the team fails then it's your fault only.</li> </ul><br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='Testing'>Testing</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='testing'>Testing</h2><br /> <br /> <span>Unit testing Vs regression testing: Unit tests test the smallest possible unit and get rewritten if the unit gets changed. It's like programming against a specification n. Regression tests test whether the software still works after the change. Now you know more than most software engineers.</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='Bookstoread'>Books to read</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='books-to-read'>Books to read</h2><br /> <br /> <ul> <li>Clean Code</li> diff --git a/notes/index.html b/notes/index.html index 24a8010e..6e33345d 100644 --- a/notes/index.html +++ b/notes/index.html @@ -8,9 +8,9 @@ <link rel="stylesheet" href="style-override.css" /> </head> <body> -<h1 style='display: inline' id='Notesonfoozone'>Notes on foo.zone</h1><br /> +<h1 style='display: inline' id='notes-on-foozone'>Notes on foo.zone</h1><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='Tobeinthezone'>To be in the .zone!</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='to-be-in-the-zone'>To be in the .zone!</h2><br /> <br /> <a class='textlink' href='./the-stoic-challenge.html'>'The Stoic Challenge' book notes</a><br /> <a class='textlink' href='./the-pragmatic-programmer.html'>'The Pragmatic Programmer' book notes</a><br /> diff --git a/notes/influence-wihout-authority.html b/notes/influence-wihout-authority.html index 196389bf..44fd2cfb 100644 --- a/notes/influence-wihout-authority.html +++ b/notes/influence-wihout-authority.html @@ -8,7 +8,7 @@ <link rel="stylesheet" href="style-override.css" /> </head> <body> -<h1 style='display: inline' id='InfluencewithoutAuthoritybooknotes'>"Influence without Authority" book notes</h1><br /> +<h1 style='display: inline' id='influence-without-authority-book-notes'>"Influence without Authority" book notes</h1><br /> <br /> <span class='quote'>Last updated 28.4.2024</span><br /> <br /> @@ -16,7 +16,7 @@ <br /> <span>These are my personal notes, but maybe you will find them usefull too.</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='BuildingRelationshipsandCommunication'>Building Relationships and Communication</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='building-relationships-and-communication'>Building Relationships and Communication</h2><br /> <br /> <ul> <li>Make relationships before they are needed. A good reputation acts as a reserve for difficult times.</li> @@ -26,7 +26,7 @@ <li>Present your thoughts in a more business-like manner, less personally.</li> <li>In remote meetings, use structured agendas and keep webcams on for better focus and easier opening up via video call as it’s less intense with fewer external clues.</li> </ul><br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='ManagingEmotionsandConflicts'>Managing Emotions and Conflicts</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='managing-emotions-and-conflicts'>Managing Emotions and Conflicts</h2><br /> <br /> <ul> <li>Downplay personal feelings and focus on the task.</li> @@ -34,7 +34,7 @@ <li>Avoid blame as it's not helpful.</li> <li>Handle conflicts by ensuring the other person feels they also won; aim for win-win situations.</li> </ul><br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='StrategicInfluenceandReciprocity'>Strategic Influence and Reciprocity</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='strategic-influence-and-reciprocity'>Strategic Influence and Reciprocity</h2><br /> <br /> <ul> <li>Insist on what is important to you but may not be to others.</li> @@ -43,7 +43,7 @@ <li>Recognize the hidden costs in exchanges and represent them when negotiating to ensure fair compensation.</li> <li>Many people underestimate the "currencies" they can offer, like craftsmanship or teaching, to influence outcomes favorably.</li> </ul><br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='WorkingwithManagement'>Working with Management</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='working-with-management'>Working with Management</h2><br /> <br /> <ul> <li>Use your boss as a potential ally, seeing them as a partner.</li> @@ -53,14 +53,14 @@ <li>Present new ideas to your boss only when they are well thought out and the benefits are clear.</li> <li>The goal is to maintain a supportive work relationship with your boss as a partner, not to critique them. If alignment isn’t possible, consider moving on.</li> </ul><br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='AdaptingtoWorkplaceCulture'>Adapting to Workplace Culture</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='adapting-to-workplace-culture'>Adapting to Workplace Culture</h2><br /> <br /> <ul> <li>Early successes can lead to better cooperation within teams.</li> <li>Adjust to company culture when asking for things.</li> <li>Recognize that truly powerful people don't need to show off but address problems directly and empower others.</li> </ul><br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='DiplomacyandDiscretion'>Diplomacy and Discretion</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='diplomacy-and-discretion'>Diplomacy and Discretion</h2><br /> <br /> <ul> <li>The three rules of being a diplomat: never tell a lie, never tell everything, and when in doubt, go to the bathroom.</li> diff --git a/notes/mental-combat.html b/notes/mental-combat.html index c721808b..00d73405 100644 --- a/notes/mental-combat.html +++ b/notes/mental-combat.html @@ -8,11 +8,11 @@ <link rel="stylesheet" href="style-override.css" /> </head> <body> -<h1 style='display: inline' id='MentalCombatbooknotes'>"Mental Combat" book notes</h1><br /> +<h1 style='display: inline' id='mental-combat-book-notes'>"Mental Combat" book notes</h1><br /> <br /> <span class='quote'>Last updated 29.5.2022</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='Mindfulness'>Mindfulness</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='mindfulness'>Mindfulness</h2><br /> <br /> <span>We overthink everything. Apply mindfulness. Take a step back and recognize the conflict. Then analyse and react. Mindfulness is experiencing the moment without judgement. Mindfulness can combat all kind of mental issues such as stress for example. Don't think about the future and the past. Be in the now. </span><br /> <br /> @@ -25,13 +25,13 @@ <li>Life will not slow down for you. You need to make your own priorities.</li> <li>There is a difference between sport and exercise psychology. One is for competition, the other for exercise.</li> </ul><br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='Motivation'>Motivation</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='motivation'>Motivation</h2><br /> <br /> <span>Your mind sets limits not to self destruct your body. But there is always a buffer for emergency situations. It is possible to overcome the limits set by your mind. Motivation is everything. Without, you won't do things and will only dream. Or you will give up. Don't be externally motivated but by personal drive. Real training is though. The only way to succeed is motivation. Enjoy the process despite the pain and sweat. In order for this be internal motivated.</span><br /> <br /> <span>If you are not motivated, reevaluate your goals. Is this the right sport for you? Find the inner fire.</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='Selfesteem'>Self esteem</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='self-esteem'>Self esteem</h2><br /> <br /> <ul> <li>Competitive anxiety can interfere with your performance Don't worry at the outcome but focus on the now, e.g. the correct move.</li> diff --git a/notes/mind-management.html b/notes/mind-management.html index d2a16dd9..7a439e7b 100644 --- a/notes/mind-management.html +++ b/notes/mind-management.html @@ -8,7 +8,7 @@ <link rel="stylesheet" href="style-override.css" /> </head> <body> -<h1 style='display: inline' id='MindManagementbooknotes'>"Mind Management" book notes</h1><br /> +<h1 style='display: inline' id='mind-management-book-notes'>"Mind Management" book notes</h1><br /> <br /> <span class='quote'>Published at 2023-11-11T22:21:47+02:00</span><br /> <br /> @@ -32,11 +32,11 @@ <li>The point of diminishing returns</li> <li>The point of negative return</li> </ul><br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='Emptyslotsinthecalendar'>Empty slots in the calendar</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='empty-slots-in-the-calendar'>Empty slots in the calendar</h2><br /> <br /> <span>If we do more things in less time and use all possible slots, speed read, etc., we are more productive. But in reality, that's not the entire truth. You also exchange one thing against everything else.... You cut out too much from your actual life.</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='Whenyousafetime'>When you safe time...</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='when-you-safe-time'>When you safe time...</h2><br /> <br /> <span>...keep it.</span><br /> <br /> @@ -45,7 +45,7 @@ <li>Creative thinking needs space. It will pay dividends tomorrow.</li> <li>You will be rewarded with the "Eureka effect" - a sudden new insight.</li> </ul><br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='Followyourmood'>Follow your mood</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='follow-your-mood'>Follow your mood</h2><br /> <br /> <span>Ask yourself: what is my mood now? We never have the energy to do anything, so the better strategy is to follow your current mode and energy. E.g.:</span><br /> <br /> @@ -53,7 +53,7 @@ <li>Didn't sleep enough today? Then, do simple, non-demanding tasks at work</li> <li>Had a great sleep, and there is even time before work starts? Pull in a workout...</li> </ul><br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='Boostingcreativity'>Boosting creativity</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='boosting-creativity'>Boosting creativity</h2><br /> <br /> <span>The morning without coffee is a gift for creativity, but you often get distracted. Minimize distractions, too. I have no window to stare out but a plain blank wall.</span><br /> <br /> @@ -63,7 +63,7 @@ <li>Don't race with time but walk alongside it as rough time lines.</li> <li>Don't judge every day after the harvest, but the seed you lay</li> </ul><br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='Therightmoodforthetaskathand'>The right mood for the task at hand</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='the-right-mood-for-the-task-at-hand'>The right mood for the task at hand</h2><br /> <br /> <span>We need to try many different combinations. Limiting ourselves and trying too hard makes us frustrated and burn out. Creativity requires many iterations.</span><br /> <br /> @@ -77,7 +77,7 @@ <br /> <span>It gives you pleasure and is in a good mood. This increases creativity if you do what you want to do.</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='Creativityhacks'>Creativity hacks</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='creativity-hacks'>Creativity hacks</h2><br /> <br /> <ul> <li>Coffee can cause anxiety.</li> @@ -88,7 +88,7 @@ <li>Go to open spaces for creativity.</li> <li>Go to closed spaces for polishing.</li> </ul><br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='Planningandstrategizing'>Planning and strategizing</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='planning-and-strategizing'>Planning and strategizing</h2><br /> <br /> <span>Minds work better in sprints and not in marathons. Have a weekly plan, not a daily one.</span><br /> <br /> @@ -101,7 +101,7 @@ <br /> <span>You could schedule exploratory tasks when you are under grief. Sound systems should create slack for creativity. Plan only for a few minutes.</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='Fakeituntilyoumakeit'>Fake it until you make it. </h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='fake-it-until-you-make-it-'>Fake it until you make it. </h2><br /> <br /> <ul> <li>E.g. act calm if you want to be calm.</li> diff --git a/notes/never-split-the-difference.html b/notes/never-split-the-difference.html index 15f5f4fe..74a647da 100644 --- a/notes/never-split-the-difference.html +++ b/notes/never-split-the-difference.html @@ -8,7 +8,7 @@ <link rel="stylesheet" href="style-override.css" /> </head> <body> -<h1 style='display: inline' id='Neversplitthedifferencebooknotes'>"Never split the difference" book notes</h1><br /> +<h1 style='display: inline' id='never-split-the-difference-book-notes'>"Never split the difference" book notes</h1><br /> <br /> <span class='quote'>Published at 2023-04-01T20:00:17+03:00</span><br /> <br /> @@ -26,7 +26,7 @@ ''' </pre> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='Tacticallisteningspreadingempathy'>Tactical listening, spreading empathy</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='tactical-listening-spreading-empathy'>Tactical listening, spreading empathy</h2><br /> <br /> <span>Be a mirror, copy each other to be comfy with each other to build up trust. Mirroring is mainly body language. A mirror is to repeat the words the other just said. Simple but effective.</span><br /> <br /> @@ -37,7 +37,7 @@ </ul><br /> <span>Mirror training is like Jedi training. Simple but effective. A mirror needs space. Be silent after "you want this?" </span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='Mindsetofdiscovery'>Mindset of discovery</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='mindset-of-discovery'>Mindset of discovery</h2><br /> <br /> <span>Try to have multiple realities in your mind and use facts to distinguish between real and false.</span><br /> <br /> @@ -49,7 +49,7 @@ </ul><br /> <span>Try: to put a label on someone's emotion and then be silent. Wait for the other to reveal himself. "You seem unhappy about this?"</span><br /> <br /> -<h3 style='display: inline' id='Moretips'>More tips </h3><br /> +<h3 style='display: inline' id='more-tips-'>More tips </h3><br /> <br /> <ul> <li>Put on a poker face and don't show emotions.</li> @@ -58,7 +58,7 @@ <li>Being right is not the key to successful negotiation; being mindful is.</li> <li>Be in the safe zone of empathy and acknowledge bad news.</li> </ul><br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='Nostartstheconversation'>"No" starts the conversation</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='no-starts-the-conversation'>"No" starts the conversation</h2><br /> <br /> <span>When the opponent starts with a "no", he feels in control and comfortable. That's why he has to start with "no".</span><br /> <br /> @@ -71,11 +71,11 @@ </ul><br /> <span>Get a "That's right" when negotiating. Don't get a "you're right". You can summarise the opponent to get a "that's right".</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='Winwin'>Win-win</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='win-win'>Win-win</h2><br /> <br /> <span>Win-win is a naive approach when encountering the win-lose counterpart, but always cooperate. Don't compromise, and don't split the difference. We don't compromise because it's right; we do it because it is easy. You must embrace the hard stuff; that's where the great deals are.</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='OnDeadlines'>On Deadlines</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='on-deadlines'>On Deadlines</h2><br /> <br /> <ul> <li>All deadlines are imaginary.</li> @@ -83,7 +83,7 @@ <li>They push a deal to a conclusion.</li> <li>They rush the counterpart to cause pressure and anxiety.</li> </ul><br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='Analysetheopponent'>Analyse the opponent</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='analyse-the-opponent'>Analyse the opponent</h2><br /> <br /> <ul> <li>Understand the motivation of people behind the table as well.</li> @@ -93,7 +93,7 @@ </ul><br /> <span>The person on the other side is never the issue; the problem is the issue. Keep this in mind to avoid emotional issues with the person and focus on the problem, not the person. The bond is essential; never create an enemy.</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='Usedifferentwaysofsayingno'>Use different ways of saying "no."</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='use-different-ways-of-saying-no'>Use different ways of saying "no."</h2><br /> <br /> <span class='quote'>I had paid my rent always in time. I had positive experiences with the building and would be sad for the landlord to lose a good tenant. I am looking for a win-win agreement between us. Pulling out the research, other neighbours offer much lower prices even if your building is a better location and services. How can I effort 200 more.... </span><br /> <br /> @@ -101,7 +101,7 @@ <br /> <span>You always have to embrace thoughtful confrontation for good negotiation and life. Don't avoid honest, clear conflict. It will give you the best deals. Compromises are mostly bad deals for both sides. Most people don't negotiate a win-win but a win-lose. Know the best and worst outcomes and what is acceptable for you.</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='Calibratedquestion'>Calibrated question</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='calibrated-question'>Calibrated question</h2><br /> <br /> <span>Calibrated questions. Give the opponent a sense of power. Ask open-how questions to get the opponent to solve your problem and move him in your direction. Calibrated questions are the best tools. Summarise everything, and then ask, "how I am supposed to do that?". Asking for help this way with a calibrated question is a powerful tool for joint problem solving</span><br /> <br /> @@ -117,11 +117,11 @@ </ul><br /> <span>Prepare 3 to 5 calibrated questions for your counterpart. Be curious what is really motivating the other side. You can get out the "Black Swan".</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='Theblackswan'>The black swan </h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='the-black-swan-'>The black swan </h2><br /> <br /> <span>What we don't know can break our deal. Uncovering it can bring us unexpected success. You get what you ask for in this world, but you must learn to ask correctly. Reveal the black swan by asking questions.</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='More'>More</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='more'>More</h2><br /> <br /> <span>Establish a range at top places like corp. I get... (e.g. remote London on a project basis). Set a high salary range and not a number. Also, check on LinkedIn premium for the salaries.</span><br /> <br /> diff --git a/notes/search-inside-yourself.html b/notes/search-inside-yourself.html index fe821652..abee42a9 100644 --- a/notes/search-inside-yourself.html +++ b/notes/search-inside-yourself.html @@ -8,11 +8,11 @@ <link rel="stylesheet" href="style-override.css" /> </head> <body> -<h1 style='display: inline' id='SearchInsideYourselfbooknotes'>"Search Inside Yourself" book notes</h1><br /> +<h1 style='display: inline' id='search-inside-yourself-book-notes'>"Search Inside Yourself" book notes</h1><br /> <br /> <span class='quote'>Last updated 23.7.2024</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='MindfulnessandPersonalDevelopment'>Mindfulness and Personal Development</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='mindfulness-and-personal-development'>Mindfulness and Personal Development</h2><br /> <br /> <span>Mindfulness is not about reaching a different destination; it's about fully inhabiting your current state and recognizing the power of your complete presence and awareness at this moment. This book is about the potential everyone has to develop an extraordinarily capable mind that is profoundly peaceful, happy, and compassionate. It emphasizes the importance of deeper emotional awareness—the ability to detect an emotion as it arises, observe it as it subsides, and notice all the subtle changes in between. </span><br /> <br /> @@ -20,7 +20,7 @@ <br /> <span>Additionally, it teaches you to distinguish between stories and reality. Following the exercises in this book, you will learn how to calm your mind on demand and perceive your mental and emotional processes with increasing clarity.</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='ThreeStepsofSearchInsideYourself'>Three Steps of "Search Inside Yourself"</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='three-steps-of-search-inside-yourself'>Three Steps of "Search Inside Yourself"</h2><br /> <br /> <span>1. **Attention Training**</span><br /> <span>2. **Self-Knowledge and Self-Mastery**</span><br /> @@ -32,7 +32,7 @@ <br /> <span>Imagine thinking, "I wish for this person to be happy," whenever you meet anyone. This habit transforms interactions at work, as sincere goodwill is unconsciously picked up by others, fostering trust and leading to highly productive collaborations.</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='EvenanEngineerCanThriveonEmotionalIntelligence'>Even an Engineer Can Thrive on Emotional Intelligence</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='even-an-engineer-can-thrive-on-emotional-intelligence'>Even an Engineer Can Thrive on Emotional Intelligence</h2><br /> <br /> <span>Emotional intelligence is a strong predictor of success at work and fulfillment in life, and it is trainable for everyone. Emotional competencies are not innate talents; they are learned skills that you can acquire with practice. </span><br /> <br /> @@ -45,14 +45,14 @@ <li>4. Empathy: Awareness of others' feelings, needs, and concerns.</li> <li>5. Social skills: Adeptness at inducing desirable responses in others.</li> </ul><br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='EmotionalIntelligenceEnablesThreeImportantSkills'>Emotional Intelligence Enables Three Important Skills</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='emotional-intelligence-enables-three-important-skills'>Emotional Intelligence Enables Three Important Skills</h2><br /> <br /> <ul> <li>1. Stellar Work Performance</li> <li>2. Outstanding Leadership</li> <li>3. Creating Conditions for Happiness</li> </ul><br /> -<h3 style='display: inline' id='1StellarWorkPerformance'>1. Stellar Work Performance</h3><br /> +<h3 style='display: inline' id='1-stellar-work-performance'>1. Stellar Work Performance</h3><br /> <br /> <span>Top six competencies that distinguish star performers from the average in the tech sector are:</span><br /> <br /> @@ -66,19 +66,19 @@ </ul><br /> <span>From these, only two (conceptual thinking and analytical ability) are purely intellectual competencies. The other four are emotional competencies. So the conclusion is, that training your emotional intelligence can help everyone become outstanding at work, even engineers.</span><br /> <br /> -<h3 style='display: inline' id='2OutstandingLeadership'>2. Outstanding Leadership</h3><br /> +<h3 style='display: inline' id='2-outstanding-leadership'>2. Outstanding Leadership</h3><br /> <br /> <span>Effective U.S. Navy commanders are "more positive and outgoing, more emotionally expressive and dramatic, warmer and more sociable (including smiling more), friendlier and more democratic, more cooperative, more likable and 'fun to be with', more appreciative and trustful, and even gentler than those who are merely average." "Nice guys finish first."</span><br /> <br /> -<h3 style='display: inline' id='3TheAbilitytoCreatetheConditionsforHappiness'>3. The Ability to Create the Conditions for Happiness</h3><br /> +<h3 style='display: inline' id='3-the-ability-to-create-the-conditions-for-happiness'>3. The Ability to Create the Conditions for Happiness</h3><br /> <br /> <span>Happiness is a skill that can be practiced through deliberate training. The other side effects may include resilience, optimism, and kindness.</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='AttentionTraining'>Attention Training</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='attention-training'>Attention Training</h2><br /> <br /> <span>Train your attention to cultivate a mind that is both calm and clear. This quality of mind forms the foundation for emotional intelligence.</span><br /> <br /> -<h3 style='display: inline' id='TrainAttention'>Train Attention</h3><br /> +<h3 style='display: inline' id='train-attention'>Train Attention</h3><br /> <br /> <span>How to begin training emotional intelligence? Begin by training attention. A strong, stable, and perceptive attention that offers calmness and clarity is the foundation upon which emotional intelligence is built. </span><br /> <br /> @@ -92,44 +92,44 @@ <br /> <span>"Affect labeling" is a self-regulation technique, which simply means labeling feelings with words. When you label an emotion you are experiencing (for example, "I feel anger"), it helps to manage that emotion.</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='SelfKnowledgeandSelfMastery'>Self-Knowledge and Self-Mastery</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='self-knowledge-and-self-mastery'>Self-Knowledge and Self-Mastery</h2><br /> <br /> <span>Develop the ability to observe your thought stream and emotional processes with high clarity and from an objective, third-person perspective. This deep self-awareness eventually leads to self-mastery.</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='CreatingUsefulMentalHabits'>Creating Useful Mental Habits</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='creating-useful-mental-habits'>Creating Useful Mental Habits</h2><br /> <br /> <span>Imagine thinking, "I wish for this person to be happy," whenever you meet anyone. This habit transforms interactions at work, as sincere goodwill is unconsciously picked up by others, fostering trust and leading to highly productive collaborations.</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='OptimizeThyself'>Optimize Thyself</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='optimize-thyself'>Optimize Thyself</h2><br /> <br /> <span>The aim of developing emotional intelligence is to help you optimize yourself and function at an even higher level than what you are already capable of. Emotional skillfulness frees us from emotional compulsion. Neuroplasticity tells us that we can intentionally change our brains with training. </span><br /> <br /> <span>It is possible to train the brain to overcome even serious emotional disorders; just imagine the possibility of using it to greatly improve the quality of our emotional lives. This also works with physical pain. Suffering can be trained "away." Brain. Trainable. Good.</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='TrainattheLevelofPhysiology'>Train at the Level of Physiology</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='train-at-the-level-of-physiology'>Train at the Level of Physiology</h2><br /> <br /> <span>Every emotion has a correlate in the body. Emotional experiences are not just psychological; they are also physiological. We can usually experience emotions more vividly in the body than in the mind. Therefore, when trying to perceive an emotion, it is often more effective to bring our attention to the body rather than the mind.</span><br /> <br /> -<h3 style='display: inline' id='HighResolutionPerception'>High-Resolution Perception</h3><br /> +<h3 style='display: inline' id='high-resolution-perception'>High-Resolution Perception</h3><br /> <br /> <span>Your perception can become so refined across both time and space that you can observe an emotion the moment it arises, perceive its subtle changes, and watch it in the moment it ceases. The way to develop high-resolution perception of emotion is to apply mindfulness to the body.</span><br /> <br /> <span>Because emotions have such a strong physiological component, developing emotional intelligence necessitates operating at the level of physiology. Much of our intuition comes from our body, and learning to listen to it can be very fruitful. Our approach to cultivating emotional intelligence begins with mindfulness.</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='MindfulnessinTwoMinutes'>Mindfulness in Two Minutes</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='mindfulness-in-two-minutes'>Mindfulness in Two Minutes</h2><br /> <br /> <span>In the evenings, sit together in mindfulness for two minutes. For two minutes a day, quietly enjoy being alive and being together. More fundamentally, for two minutes a day, enjoy just being. The good news is that mindfulness is embarrassingly easy. The hard part in mindfulness is deepening, strengthening, and sustaining it, especially in times of difficulty.</span><br /> <br /> <span>The creatively named *Easy Way* is to simply bring gentle and consistent attention to your breath for two minutes. That's it. The *Easier Way* is, as its name may subtly suggest, even easier: All you have to do is sit without an agenda for two minutes.</span><br /> <br /> -<h3 style='display: inline' id='MeditationisExercise'>Meditation is Exercise</h3><br /> +<h3 style='display: inline' id='meditation-is-exercise'>Meditation is Exercise</h3><br /> <br /> <span>There is no such thing as bad meditation. After a few weeks or months of starting a regular meditation regime, you have more energy; your mind becomes calmer, clearer, and more joyful; you get sick less; you smile more; your social life improves (because you smile more); and you feel great about yourself. </span><br /> <span>The best meditation posture is one that helps you remain alert and relaxed at the same time for long periods of time. Use this as a guideline, and find whatever posture is comfortable for you. Keeping eyes closed during meditation is good because it helps you stay calm and keeps away distractions. However, the problem is that you may fall asleep. </span><br /> <br /> <span>The idea is to open your eyes slightly, look slightly downward, and gaze at nothing in particular. Whether eyes are closed or opened, try out what works best for you.</span><br /> <br /> -<h3 style='display: inline' id='SustainingYourPractice'>Sustaining Your Practice</h3><br /> +<h3 style='display: inline' id='sustaining-your-practice'>Sustaining Your Practice</h3><br /> <br /> <span>The keyword is practice. Mindfulness is like exercise - it is not sufficient to just understand the topic; you can only benefit from it with practice. The bad news is that after the first few days, many people find it hard to sustain the practice. Happily, the difficulty of sustaining a mindfulness practice often lasts only a few months. </span><br /> <br /> @@ -141,43 +141,43 @@ </ul><br /> <span>Also, creating the intention to meditate is itself meditation.</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='BreathingasifYourLifeDependsonIt'>Breathing as if Your Life Depends on It</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='breathing-as-if-your-life-depends-on-it'>Breathing as if Your Life Depends on It</h2><br /> <br /> <span>There is nothing mysterious about meditation; it's really just mental training. Meta-attention, the attention of attention, is the ability to pay attention to attention itself. Simply put, meta-attention is the ability to know that your attention has wandered away.</span><br /> <br /> <span>When your meta-attention becomes strong, you will be able to recover a wandering attention quickly and often. If you recover attention quickly and often enough, you create the effect of continuous attention, which is concentration. When the mind becomes highly relaxed and alert at the same time, three wonderful qualities of mind naturally emerge: calmness, clarity, and happiness.</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='HappinessistheDefaultStateofMind'>Happiness is the Default State of Mind</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='happiness-is-the-default-state-of-mind'>Happiness is the Default State of Mind</h2><br /> <br /> <span>Happiness is not something you pursue; it is something you allow. Happiness is just being. That insight changed my life. The biggest joke is that after all that has been done in the history of the world in the pursuit of happiness, it turns out that sustainable happiness is achievable simply by bringing attention to one's breath. Life is funny.</span><br /> <br /> <span>Mindfulness can increase happiness without changing anything else. We take for granted many of the neutral things in life, such as not being in pain, having three meals a day, and being able to walk from point A to point B. In mindfulness, these become causes of joy because we no longer take them for granted. Pleasant experiences become even more pleasant because our attention is there to fully experience them. </span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='ExperienceWithoutJudgingorReacting'>Experience, Without Judging or Reacting</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='experience-without-judging-or-reacting'>Experience, Without Judging or Reacting</h2><br /> <br /> <span>Whatever it is that you are experiencing, just experience it. Do not judge it to be good or bad. Let it be. If possible, try not to react to it. If you have to react (for example, if you really have to scratch), try to take five breaths before reacting. </span><br /> <br /> <span>The reason for this is to practice creating space between stimulus and reaction. The more we are able to create space between stimulus and reaction, the more control we will have over our emotional lives. This skill that you develop here during sitting can be generalized to daily life.</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='AttentionandMindfulMeditationislikeMacGyversSwissArmyKnife'>Attention and Mindful Meditation is like MacGyver's Swiss Army Knife</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='attention-and-mindful-meditation-is-like-macgyvers-swiss-army-knife'>Attention and Mindful Meditation is like MacGyver's Swiss Army Knife</h2><br /> <br /> <span>The reason we create a powerful quality of attention is to develop insights into the mind. Just eight weeks of mindfulness meditation made subjects measurably happier and showed an increase in immunity. Upgrading the operating efficiency of our brains with mindfulness meditation is akin to pumping iron: if you work out a lot, you will have bulging muscles even when you are not working out in the gym. Similarly, with extensive meditation training, you will have strong mental "muscles" for calmness, clarity, and joy even when you are just hanging out.</span><br /> <br /> <span>It is remarkable that mindfulness helps improve everything from attention and brain function to immunity and skin disease. Mindfulness feels almost like MacGyver's Swiss Army knife - it is useful in every situation. Your attention naturally gravitates towards things that are either very pleasant or very unpleasant, so if you can train yourself to keep your attention on something as neutral as your breath, then you can maintain your attention on anything.</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='Meditationtechniques'>Meditation techniques</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='meditation-techniques'>Meditation techniques</h2><br /> <br /> -<h3 style='display: inline' id='ExpensiveFoodMeditation'>Expensive Food Meditation</h3><br /> +<h3 style='display: inline' id='expensive-food-meditation'>Expensive Food Meditation</h3><br /> <br /> <span>Imagine if every meal was rare and expensive. Call it "expensive food meditation." In this case, every meal becomes superb. Accelerate this by purposefully bringing mindfulness to daily activities. Bring full moment-to-moment attention to every task with a nonjudgmental mind, and every time your attention wanders away, just gently bring it back. </span><br /> <br /> <span>It is just like sitting meditation, except the object of meditation is the task at hand rather than just the breath.</span><br /> <br /> -<h3 style='display: inline' id='WalkingMeditation'>Walking Meditation</h3><br /> +<h3 style='display: inline' id='walking-meditation'>Walking Meditation</h3><br /> <br /> <span>Practice walking meditation every time you walk from the office to the restroom and back. Mindful walking is restful for the mind, and a relaxed mind is conducive to creative thinking. Problems often get solved in the mind during restroom breaks.</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='MindfulListening'>Mindful Listening</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='mindful-listening'>Mindful Listening</h2><br /> <br /> <span>When a friend or loved one is speaking to you, adopt a generous attitude by giving the person the gift of your attention and airtime. The most precious gift we can offer others is our presence. When mindfulness embraces those we love, they will bloom like flowers. If there are people in your life you care about, be sure to give them a few minutes of your full attention every day. They will bloom like flowers.</span><br /> <br /> @@ -185,7 +185,7 @@ <br /> <span>You can practice mindful conversation during any interaction, but it is most useful when communication is at an impasse, such as in a conflict situation. After the speaker offers their input, repeat their remarks in your own words to ensure you understood them correctly.</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='LightnessandJoyinMeditation'>Lightness and Joy in Meditation</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='lightness-and-joy-in-meditation'>Lightness and Joy in Meditation</h2><br /> <br /> <span>When I was new to meditation, I struggled with the simplest and silliest of all problems: I could not breathe. I tried too hard. Once I stopped trying so hard, I caught myself breathing normally. That was the first time I was able to pay attention to my breath properly. Only by not trying did I finally succeed.</span><br /> <br /> @@ -205,7 +205,7 @@ <br /> <span>Sukhā is the quality of joy that does not require energy. It is almost like white noise in the background, something that is always there but seldom noticed. It is highly sustainable and so subtle that it takes a very quiet mind to access. You need to learn to quiet the mind to reach it. Once skillful at doing that, you have a highly sustainable source of happiness that does not require sensual input. Talk about life-changing.</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='MasteringBothFocusedandOpenAttention'>Mastering Both Focused and Open Attention</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='mastering-both-focused-and-open-attention'>Mastering Both Focused and Open Attention</h2><br /> <br /> <span>Strength and stamina. To be a well-rounded athlete, it is good to have both. Focused attention and open attention. To be an accomplished meditator, it is good to be strong in both. Focused attention is an intense focus on a chosen object. Open attention is a quality of attention willing to meet any object that arrives at the mind or the senses.</span><br /> <br /> @@ -218,7 +218,7 @@ </ul><br /> <span>Regarding the last point: Too much effort makes it tiring and unsustainable, while too little effort causes you to lose your grip on your attention. One fun way of maintaining this balance is to play it like a video game: Just difficult enough to be challenging but not so difficult that you will lose every time. In either meditation, it is possible to get into a very good state of ease and flow. Very cool.</span><br /> <br /> -<h3 style='display: inline' id='MeditationCircuitTraining'>Meditation Circuit Training</h3><br /> +<h3 style='display: inline' id='meditation-circuit-training'>Meditation Circuit Training</h3><br /> <br /> <ul> <li>1. Sit comfortably in a position that enables both relaxation and alertness at the same time.</li> @@ -227,7 +227,7 @@ <li>4. Repeat focused attention for 3 minutes and open attention for 3 minutes.</li> <li>5. End by resting the mind. If you like, you can again visualize the breath to be a resting place, or a cushion, or a mattress, and let the mind rest on it. (Long pause).</li> </ul><br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='ZenandaWalkingBaby'>Zen and a Walking Baby</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='zen-and-a-walking-baby'>Zen and a Walking Baby</h2><br /> <br /> <span>There seem to be two stages in one's meditation progress, which I call "initial access" and "consolidation."</span><br /> <br /> @@ -237,7 +237,7 @@ </ul><br /> <span>This means you may go for a frustratingly long time without any apparent progress, and then suddenly—boom—within a very short period, you make huge strides and arrive at full consolidation. The lesson here is to avoid feeling discouraged when your meditation does not seem to be progressing. It will come suddenly, and every moment of effort brings you closer to that point. In Zen, we call it gradual effort and sudden enlightenment.</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='Clarity'>Clarity</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='clarity'>Clarity</h2><br /> <br /> <span>Compare two versions of a picture: one with higher resolution and vividness than the other. The combination of resolution and vividness makes the image more useful to us. We can also make meditation more useful in two ways:</span><br /> <br /> @@ -247,21 +247,21 @@ </ul><br /> <span>This combination provides us with very useful high-definition information about our emotional life.</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='AboutSelfAwareness'>About Self-Awareness</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='about-self-awareness'>About Self-Awareness</h2><br /> <br /> <span>"I cannot scream at that guy; he is the CEO!" Our engagement of the neocortex in every experience of emotion is a necessary step in gaining control over our emotional lives. The moment you can see a raging river, it means you are already rising above it. Similarly, the moment you can see an emotion, you are no longer fully engulfed in it.</span><br /> <br /> <span>Daniel Goleman defines emotional competence as a "learned capability based on emotional intelligence that results in outstanding performance at work." He suggests three emotional competencies under the domain of self-awareness:</span><br /> <br /> -<h3 style='display: inline' id='1EmotionalAwareness'>1. Emotional Awareness</h3><br /> +<h3 style='display: inline' id='1-emotional-awareness'>1. Emotional Awareness</h3><br /> <br /> <span>Recognizing one's emotions and their effects. It asks questions like: What are my strengths and weaknesses? What are my resources and limitations? What matters to me? Accurate self-assessment builds on emotional awareness.</span><br /> <br /> -<h3 style='display: inline' id='2AccurateSelfAssessment'>2. Accurate Self-Assessment</h3><br /> +<h3 style='display: inline' id='2-accurate-self-assessment'>2. Accurate Self-Assessment</h3><br /> <br /> <span>Knowing one's strengths and limits. This is also referred to as "self-objectivity." On competence assessments, average performers typically overestimate their strengths, whereas star performers rarely do; if anything, the stars tend to underestimate their abilities, an indicator of high internal standards.</span><br /> <br /> -<h3 style='display: inline' id='3SelfConfidence'>3. Self-Confidence</h3><br /> +<h3 style='display: inline' id='3-self-confidence'>3. Self-Confidence</h3><br /> <br /> <span>A strong sense of one's self-worth and capabilities. One is able to project confidence not because they make an effort to look confident, but because there's a sense of humor about their own ego or sense of self-importance. </span><br /> <br /> @@ -269,19 +269,19 @@ <br /> <span>The type of deep self-knowledge and blatant self-honesty needed for sustainable self-confidence means having nothing to hide from oneself. We learn about our deepest priorities in life, what is important to us, and what is not important that we can let go. With that clarity, we create space that allows us to view our own emotional lives as if seeing it as an objective third party. In other words, we gain objectivity, and we begin to perceive each emotional experience clearly and objectively as it is.</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='DevelopingSelfAwareness'>Developing Self-Awareness</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='developing-self-awareness'>Developing Self-Awareness</h2><br /> <br /> <span>Self-awareness is a neutral mode that maintains self-reflectiveness even in the midst of turbulent emotions. Mindfulness means paying attention in a particular way: on purpose, in the present moment. Both mindfulness and self-awareness are trainable in similar ways.</span><br /> <br /> -<h3 style='display: inline' id='BodyScan'>Body Scan</h3><br /> +<h3 style='display: inline' id='body-scan'>Body Scan</h3><br /> <br /> <span>Emotion is a physical experience; therefore, the best way to create high-resolution awareness of emotion is by applying mindfulness to the body. The simplest way to do it is to bring mindfulness to your body all the time. The body scan is one of the core practices in stress reduction.</span><br /> <br /> -<h3 style='display: inline' id='ScanforEmotion'>Scan for Emotion</h3><br /> +<h3 style='display: inline' id='scan-for-emotion'>Scan for Emotion</h3><br /> <br /> <span>Did you find any emotion in your body? If there is any, just notice its presence in the body. If not, just notice the absence of emotions and catch one if it arises in the next two minutes. Notice that we only invite you to bring a positive emotion in this exercise, not a negative one. Attention drives neurological change. By bringing attention to the body, we help it relax. Very often, bodily tension builds up because we are not paying attention to the body.</span><br /> <br /> -<h3 style='display: inline' id='Journaling'>Journaling</h3><br /> +<h3 style='display: inline' id='journaling'>Journaling</h3><br /> <br /> <span>Journaling is the practice of self-discovery by writing to yourself. It is an important exercise to help you discover what is in your mind that is not in clear, conscious view. You are trying to let your thoughts flow onto paper so you can see what comes up. </span><br /> <br /> @@ -301,25 +301,25 @@ <li>I made a happy mistake...</li> <li>Love is...</li> </ul><br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='MyEmotionsAreNotMe'>My Emotions Are Not Me</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='my-emotions-are-not-me'>My Emotions Are Not Me</h2><br /> <br /> <span>As we deepen our self-awareness, we eventually arrive at a very important key insight: we are not our emotions. With enough mindfulness practice, you may eventually notice a subtle but important shift—you may begin to feel that emotions are simply what you feel, not who you are. You may begin to see emotions simply as physiological phenomena. Emotions become what we experience in the body, so we go from "I am angry" to "I experience anger in my body." </span><br /> <br /> <span>This subtle shift is extremely important because it suggests the possibility of mastery over our emotions. If emotions are simply what I experience in my body, then feeling angry becomes a lot like feeling pain in my shoulders after an extreme workout; both are just physiological experiences over which I have influence. Possessing this insight, one creates the possibility of change within oneself.</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='RidingYourEmotionsLikeaHorse'>Riding Your Emotions Like a Horse</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='riding-your-emotions-like-a-horse'>Riding Your Emotions Like a Horse</h2><br /> <br /> <span class='quote'>"One can have no smaller or greater mastery than mastery of oneself." —Leonardo da Vinci</span><br /> <br /> <span>"Rider, where are you going?" The man on the horse answered, "I don't know. Ask the horse." This story provides a metaphor for our emotional lives. The horse represents our emotions. We usually feel compelled by our emotions. We feel we have no control over the horse, and we let it take us wherever it wants to. Fortunately, it turns out that we can tame and guide the horse. It begins with understanding the horse and observing its preferences, tendencies, and behaviors. Once we understand the horse, we learn to communicate and work with it skillfully.</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='SelfRegulation'>Self-Regulation</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='self-regulation'>Self-Regulation</h2><br /> <br /> <span>Self-regulation is not about avoiding emotions. Self-regulation is not about never having certain emotions. It is about becoming very skillful with them. The question is if it is possible to stop an unwholesome thought or emotion from arising in the first place. </span><br /> <br /> <span>Based on my own experience, I think it is impossible. It is impossible to stop a thought or emotion from arising. While we cannot stop such a thought or emotion from arising, we have the power to let it go. The highly trained mind can let it go the moment it arises. This is like "writing on water"—the moment it is written, it disappears.</span><br /> <br /> -<h3 style='display: inline' id='PracticeofLettingGo'>Practice of Letting Go</h3><br /> +<h3 style='display: inline' id='practice-of-letting-go'>Practice of Letting Go</h3><br /> <br /> <span>Pain and suffering are qualitatively distinct, and one does not necessarily follow the other. Letting go is an extremely important skill and one of the essential foundations of meditation practice. Is it possible to let go and still appreciate and fully experience the ups and downs of life? Yes. The key is to let go of two things: grasping and aversion. Grasping and aversion together account for a huge percentage of the suffering we experience—perhaps 90 percent, maybe even 100 percent. The first important opportunity is the possibility of experiencing pain without suffering.</span><br /> <br /> @@ -331,7 +331,7 @@ <br /> <span>By letting go of grasping and aversion, we can fully adopt the letting-go mind and also fully experience life in its glorious Technicolor detail. In fact, we may be able to experience life more vividly with the letting-go mind because it frees us from the noisy interferences of grasping, aversion, and suffering.</span><br /> <br /> -<h3 style='display: inline' id='KnowWhenYouAreNotinPain'>Know When You Are Not in Pain</h3><br /> +<h3 style='display: inline' id='know-when-you-are-not-in-pain'>Know When You Are Not in Pain</h3><br /> <br /> <span>When we are suffering from pain, we often tell ourselves, "I'll be so happy if I am free from this pain," but when we are free from the pain, we forget to enjoy the freedom from pain. The lack of distress encourages us to enjoy the sweetness of that freedom, thereby helping us to be happier.</span><br /> <br /> @@ -340,7 +340,7 @@ <li>Do not feed the monsters. We cannot stop monsters from arising or force them to leave, but we have the power to stop feeding them (take anger, for example).</li> <li>Start every thought with kindness and humor. It is all very funny. So every time I fail, it is a comedy.</li> </ul><br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='DealingwithTriggers'>Dealing with Triggers</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='dealing-with-triggers'>Dealing with Triggers</h2><br /> <br /> <span>In the context of a threat, real or imagined, our emotional state can rapidly shift into fear or anxiety. Mindfulness helps our thinking brain and our emotional brain communicate more clearly, so they work better together. One common situation in which self-regulation skills really come in handy is when we get triggered. The first step in learning to deal with triggers is identifying when you have been triggered.</span><br /> <br /> @@ -351,7 +351,7 @@ </ul><br /> <span>Triggers almost always have long histories behind them. When we get triggered, it is very often because it brings back something from the past, that "she's-doing-that-again" feeling. Triggers are also very often connected to a perceived inadequacy about ourselves that is a source of pain to us, sort of like a raw nerve.</span><br /> <br /> -<h3 style='display: inline' id='SiberianNorthRailroad'>Siberian North Railroad</h3><br /> +<h3 style='display: inline' id='siberian-north-railroad'>Siberian North Railroad</h3><br /> <br /> <span>This practice helps to deal with triggers:</span><br /> <br /> @@ -376,7 +376,7 @@ </ul><br /> <span>Finally, we respond. Bring to mind ways in which you might respond to this situation that would have a positive outcome. You do not actually have to do it - just imagine the kindest, most positive response. What would that look like?</span><br /> <br /> -<h3 style='display: inline' id='SiberianNorthRailroadPractice'>Siberian North Railroad Practice</h3><br /> +<h3 style='display: inline' id='siberian-north-railroad-practice'>Siberian North Railroad Practice</h3><br /> <br /> <ul> <li>1. Settling Attention: Start with three breaths.</li> @@ -387,25 +387,25 @@ </ul><br /> <span>Given how quickly each episode moves, it's hard to train in real-time, but it's just as effective to do it "offline" retroactively. The more time you spend practicing the reflect-and-respond process offline, the better you will be able to do it in real-time situations. The next time you are triggered, remember to take the SBNRR. It can become a general framework on which we can add other ways of handling triggers.</span><br /> <br /> -<h3 style='display: inline' id='WhenYouGetTriggered'>When You Get Triggered:</h3><br /> +<h3 style='display: inline' id='when-you-get-triggered'>When You Get Triggered:</h3><br /> <br /> <span>A standard practice is to count to ten, which is a more deliberate way of invoking a sacred pause. This practice also has the benefit of giving your mind something else to do, temporarily distracting it from emotions until it is capable of handling the situation. Another practice is to take slow, deep breaths. Taking deep breaths induces a calming effect. Attentional control is good and necessary, but often insufficient. Even if your mind is so highly trained that you can let go of the distress and return to calm very quickly, the issue behind the trigger will remain unresolved, and you will still be similarly triggered in the future. </span><br /> <br /> <span>Hence, cognitive work is also necessary. Cognitive work here means reframing and reinterpreting the meaning of the situation—seeing things more objectively and with more compassion toward self and others. You can also try seeing positives in the triggers. For example, if you blew up in front of your new boyfriend and are surprised at the level of emotion, this is a perfect time to let things calm down and create space so you can both talk about it, using the situation as an opportunity to help him know you more deeply as a person.</span><br /> <br /> -<h3 style='display: inline' id='CreatingWillingnesstoExperienceandAccepttheEmotions'>Creating Willingness to Experience and Accept the Emotions:</h3><br /> +<h3 style='display: inline' id='creating-willingness-to-experience-and-accept-the-emotions'>Creating Willingness to Experience and Accept the Emotions:</h3><br /> <br /> <span>We suggest two practices. The first is something called "meshing," or visualizing yourself as a mesh screen. As you encounter strong feelings welling up (for example, anger, resentment, fear), let these feelings pass through your body. Observe these intense feelings moving through you, not sticking to you, and see that they are separate from you. The second practice is to pretend your life is a sitcom and appreciate the humor in every absurd situation. By knowing exactly how a system recovers after failure, you can be confident in it even when it fails because you know the conditions under which the system can come back quickly enough that failure is inconsequential.</span><br /> <br /> <span>We can think of the practices in this chapter as upgrading our recovery mode. Experience the unpleasantness by "riding things out" and "letting your body reset" for fifteen to thirty minutes, and then the "view would open again," and the mind would be clear enough to think properly once more. It was also discovered that someone could gradually shrink the time it takes to "reset" with mindful training. Consequently, we gained confidence in ourselves.</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='MakingFriendswithEmotions'>Making Friends with Emotions</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='making-friends-with-emotions'>Making Friends with Emotions</h2><br /> <br /> <span>Mingyur decided to look deep into his panic. He realized there are two ways to make his panic bigger and stronger: treating it like a boss and obeying its every order, or treating it like an enemy and wishing it to go away. Mingyur decided he would, instead, learn to make friends with panic, neither taking orders from it, nor wishing it to go away, but just allowing it to come and go at will and treating it with kindness. In just three days, his panic went away, permanently. "Panic became my best friend."</span><br /> <br /> <span>"For three days I stayed in my room meditating. Gradually, I began to recognize how feeble and transitory the thoughts and emotions that had troubled me for years actually were, and how fixating on small problems had turned them into big ones. Just by sitting quietly and observing how rapidly, and in many ways illogically, my thoughts and emotions came and went, I began to recognize in a direct way that they weren't nearly as solid or real as they appeared to be."</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='PleasurePassionandHigherPurpose'>Pleasure, Passion, and Higher Purpose</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='pleasure-passion-and-higher-purpose'>Pleasure, Passion, and Higher Purpose</h2><br /> <br /> <span>There are three types of happiness: pleasure, passion, and higher purpose. </span><br /> <br /> @@ -416,9 +416,9 @@ </ul><br /> <span>Interestingly, we instinctively chase after pleasure believing it to be the source of sustainable happiness. This insight also suggests the best way to find motivation at work is to find our own higher purpose. When that happens, our work can become a source of sustainable happiness for us. We can then become very good at our work because we are happy doing it, which in turn allows us to enjoy the happiness of flow with increasing frequency.</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='MotivationinThreeEasySteps'>Motivation in Three Easy Steps</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='motivation-in-three-easy-steps'>Motivation in Three Easy Steps</h2><br /> <br /> -<h3 style='display: inline' id='AlignmentHavingFunforaLiving'>Alignment: Having Fun for a Living</h3><br /> +<h3 style='display: inline' id='alignment-having-fun-for-a-living'>Alignment: Having Fun for a Living</h3><br /> <br /> <span>Think of alignment as finding a way to never have to work again for the rest of your life and still get paid. The secret is to create a situation in which your work is something you do for fun, so you are doing it for your own entertainment anyway, and somebody just happens to pay for it. </span><br /> <br /> @@ -428,13 +428,13 @@ <li>The work is deeply meaningful for you</li> <li>It generates a state of flow in you</li> </ul><br /> -<h3 style='display: inline' id='Flow'>Flow</h3><br /> +<h3 style='display: inline' id='flow'>Flow</h3><br /> <br /> <span>Flow is a state of peak performance and can be described as "being completely involved in an activity for its own sake. The ego falls away. Time flies. Every action, movement, and thought flows inevitably from the previous one, like playing jazz." </span><br /> <br /> <span>Flow occurs when the task at hand matches the skill level of the practitioner, such that it is difficult enough to provide a challenge but not so difficult that it overwhelms the practitioner. Flow occurs when difficulty is just right. Flow is a state of focused attention, so people skillful in focusing their attention, such as meditators or martial arts experts, are more likely to find themselves in flow.</span><br /> <br /> -<h3 style='display: inline' id='AutonomyMasteryPurpose'>Autonomy, Mastery, Purpose</h3><br /> +<h3 style='display: inline' id='autonomy-mastery-purpose'>Autonomy, Mastery, Purpose</h3><br /> <br /> <span>The best motivators are what he calls "intrinsic motivators"—motivation we find within ourselves.</span><br /> <br /> @@ -447,7 +447,7 @@ <br /> <span>You will be able to work in ways that offer you autonomy, mastery, and purpose. With that, your work will become a source of happiness. The cornerstone of knowing and aligning thyself is mindfulness. Another way is to journal. Once again, a similar mechanism is at work—the act of verbalizing abstract thoughts makes them clear and tangible.</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='Envisioning'>Envisioning</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='envisioning'>Envisioning</h2><br /> <br /> <span>Envisioning is based on a very simple idea: it's much easier to achieve something if you can visualize yourself already achieving it. As Michael Jordan says:</span><br /> <br /> @@ -455,7 +455,7 @@ <br /> <span>The basic idea is to envision, discover, and consolidate our ideal future in the mind by writing about it as if it were already true. This is a very powerful practice.</span><br /> <br /> -<h3 style='display: inline' id='DiscoveringMyIdealFuture'>Discovering My Ideal Future</h3><br /> +<h3 style='display: inline' id='discovering-my-ideal-future'>Discovering My Ideal Future</h3><br /> <br /> <span>This exercise takes over seven minutes. The prompt is: If everything in my life, starting from today, meets or exceeds my most optimistic expectations, what will my life be like in five years? Consider these questions before writing:</span><br /> <br /> @@ -468,7 +468,7 @@ <br /> <span>Talk About Your Ideal Future a Lot: The more you talk about it, the more real it becomes to you. The second benefit is that the more you talk to people about your ideal future, the more likely you can find people to help you.</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='Resilience'>Resilience</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='resilience'>Resilience</h2><br /> <br /> <span>Resilience is the ability to overcome obstacles along the way. Alignment and envisioning help you find out where you want to go, and resilience helps you get there. We can train resilience on three levels:</span><br /> <br /> @@ -477,7 +477,7 @@ <li>Emotional resilience: Like all emotional experiences, success and failure manifest most strongly in our bodies. The idea is to become comfortable with experiencing these emotions in our bodies.</li> <li>Cognitive resilience</li> </ul><br /> -<h3 style='display: inline' id='MeditationonResilience'>Meditation on Resilience</h3><br /> +<h3 style='display: inline' id='meditation-on-resilience'>Meditation on Resilience</h3><br /> <br /> <ul> <li>Calming the mind: Start with 3 deep breaths. Bring gentle awareness to the breath, becoming aware of the in and out breaths, and the spaces in between.</li> @@ -485,7 +485,7 @@ <li>Success: Let's now have more fun and shift gears into an experience of success for 4 minutes. Let us see if we can create the ability to experience all those emotions without grasping.</li> <li>Returning to calm: Let us now return to the present for 3 minutes. Check in with your body and how it feels now.</li> </ul><br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='CognitiveResilience'>Cognitive Resilience</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='cognitive-resilience'>Cognitive Resilience</h2><br /> <br /> <span>What distinguishes successful people is their attitude toward failure, and specifically, how they explain their own failures to themselves. When an optimist suffers a major disappointment, he responds by figuring out how he can do it better next time. In contrast, a pessimist assumes there is nothing he can do about the problem and gives up.</span><br /> <br /> @@ -497,7 +497,7 @@ <br /> <span>The final step is transformation. When experiencing success, take conscious note of it and accept credit for it. This creates a mental habit of paying due attention to your successes. When experiencing failure, focus on realistic evidence suggesting that this setback may be temporary.</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='Empathy'>Empathy</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='empathy'>Empathy</h2><br /> <br /> <span>If you are strong in self-awareness, you are very likely to be strong in empathy. The brain seems to use the same equipment for both tasks. Empathy does not necessarily mean agreeing. It is possible to understand another person at both an intellectual and visceral level with kindness, and still respectfully disagree. </span><br /> <br /> @@ -505,17 +505,17 @@ <br /> <span>Empathy increases with kindness. Kindness is the engine of empathy; it motivates you to care, and it makes you more receptive to others and them to you. The more kindness you offer to people, the better you can empathize with them.</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='CreatingMentalHabits'>Creating Mental Habits</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='creating-mental-habits'>Creating Mental Habits</h2><br /> <br /> <span>"Whatever one frequently thinks and ponders upon, that will become the inclination of his mind." In other words, what we think, we become. The method itself is simple: invite a thought to arise in your mind often enough, and it will become a mental habit. For example, if every time you see another person, you wish for that person to be happy, then eventually, it will become your mental habit, and whenever you meet another person, your instinctive first thought is to wish that person to be happy. After a while, you develop an instinct for kindness.</span><br /> <br /> -<h3 style='display: inline' id='JustLikeMeLovingKindnessPractice'>Just Like Me / Loving Kindness Practice</h3><br /> +<h3 style='display: inline' id='just-like-me--loving-kindness-practice'>Just Like Me / Loving Kindness Practice</h3><br /> <br /> <span>When angry about another person or unhappy generally, meditate about him and think, "He is just like me, all he wants is to be happy and/or accomplish a goal." He also has a normal life just like me and has got issues there as well. Given how social we are and how social we need to be to survive, it makes sense for kindness toward other people to be intrinsically rewarding to ourselves; it is probably an important part of our survival mechanism. One study even suggests that performing one kind act a day over just ten days can measurably increase your happiness. In other words, kindness is a sustainable source of happiness — a simple yet profound insight that can change lives.</span><br /> <br /> <span>Whenever I have a fight with my wife or a co-worker, I go to another room to calm down, and after a few minutes of calming down, I do this exercise in stealth. A large part of my anger dissipates immediately. The next time you get into conflict with someone you care about or someone you work with, I suggest doing this practice. It may do wonders for your relationships.</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='EstablishingTrustisGoodforWork'>Establishing Trust is Good for Work</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='establishing-trust-is-good-for-work'>Establishing Trust is Good for Work</h2><br /> <br /> <span>Empathy is nice, but it is not just nice; it is also essential for helping you succeed at your work, especially if your work involves building a team or coaching, mentoring, and caring for others. There is one basic ability that enables you to be highly effective in all those activities, and that is your ability to establish trust.</span><br /> <br /> @@ -536,14 +536,14 @@ <br /> <span>One way I can build trust with you is to assume that you are trustworthy and to treat you that way. When you feel that someone trusts you, it makes it easier to trust them back, and vice versa.</span><br /> <br /> -<h3 style='display: inline' id='ThreeAssumptions'>Three Assumptions</h3><br /> +<h3 style='display: inline' id='three-assumptions'>Three Assumptions</h3><br /> <br /> <ul> <li>Assume that everybody in this room is here to serve the greater good, until proven otherwise.</li> <li>Given the above assumption, we therefore assume that none of us has any hidden agenda, until proven otherwise.</li> <li>Given the above assumption, we therefore assume that we are all reasonable even when we disagree, until proven otherwise.</li> </ul><br /> -<h3 style='display: inline' id='EmpathicListening'>Empathic Listening</h3><br /> +<h3 style='display: inline' id='empathic-listening'>Empathic Listening</h3><br /> <br /> <span>Empathic listening is a very powerful skill. As part of an exercise, I listened for my exercise partner's feelings as she spoke, and then I told her what I thought she felt. After I was done, she started to cry. We never explain to the class how to do empathic listening. They discover for themselves that empathic listening is an ability we are born with.</span><br /> <br /> @@ -555,7 +555,7 @@ <br /> <span>It is better to structure feedback around effort and growth than by labeling the person as "being smart." Simply put, it's better to praise people for working hard than for being smart.</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='PoliticalAwareness'>Political Awareness</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='political-awareness'>Political Awareness</h2><br /> <br /> <span>Political awareness is empathy++. Political awareness is one of the most useful skills you can equip yourself with in any organization. In political awareness, you understand the feelings, needs, and concerns of individual people and how those feelings, needs, and concerns interact with those of others and weave into the emotional fabric of the organization as a whole. </span><br /> <br /> @@ -567,7 +567,7 @@ <br /> <span class='quote'>"Two guys had a major disagreement they could not resolve, so they decided to consult a wise guru. The first guy presented his argument to the guru, and the guru nodded his head and said, 'Yes, you are right.' The second guy presented his diametrically opposing argument to the guru, and again the guru nodded his head and said, 'Yes, you are right.' A third guy watching the entire exchange got a little bit annoyed and asked the guru, 'Wait, something is wrong. They cannot possibly both be right at the same time.' And the guru nodded his head and said, 'Yes, you are right.'"</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='MentalHabitsofHighlyEmpathicPeople'>Mental Habits of Highly Empathic People</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='mental-habits-of-highly-empathic-people'>Mental Habits of Highly Empathic People</h2><br /> <br /> <span>Empathy comes pre-installed in your brain; we are all hardwired to be empathic. However, the main takeaway of this chapter is that empathy is something you can improve with practice, and most of that practice involves mindfulness and creating mental habits that are conducive to empathy.</span><br /> <br /> @@ -575,17 +575,17 @@ <br /> <span>Another mental habit is being open to understanding how other people can seem reasonable, at least from their own points of view, even when you disagree with them. This mental habit enables you to view social interactions with more clarity and objectivity.</span><br /> <br /> -<h3 style='display: inline' id='BeingEffectiveandLovedattheSameTime'>Being Effective and Loved at the Same Time</h3><br /> +<h3 style='display: inline' id='being-effective-and-loved-at-the-same-time'>Being Effective and Loved at the Same Time</h3><br /> <br /> <span class='quote'>You can make more friends in two months by becoming really interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you. Which is just another way of saying that the way to make a friend is to be one — Dale Carnegie.</span><br /> <br /> <span>Being Loved is Good for Your Career. They get closer to people and are significantly more open in sharing thoughts and feelings than their low-performing counterparts. We will work harder and more effectively for people we like. In fact, being liked may be the most effective way to get things done in the long term. The most effective naval commanders are also the ones with higher emotional intelligence and who are most liked.</span><br /> <br /> -<h3 style='display: inline' id='UsingKindnesstoGrowFriendshipfromanUglySituation'>Using Kindness to Grow Friendship from an Ugly Situation</h3><br /> +<h3 style='display: inline' id='using-kindness-to-grow-friendship-from-an-ugly-situation'>Using Kindness to Grow Friendship from an Ugly Situation</h3><br /> <br /> <span>Even in difficult situations, it is sometimes possible to make important things happen while still creating happy friendships. The best place to sharpen your emotional skills is the real world. The real world is both your dojo and your zendo, from which you will get your mojo.</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='LeadingwithCompassion'>Leading with Compassion</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='leading-with-compassion'>Leading with Compassion</h2><br /> <br /> <span>Compassion is the cause for the highest level of happiness ever measured, and it's a necessary condition for the most effective form of leadership known. This must be mind-blowing to many people because many of us consider compassion to be an unpleasant mental state, but here is scientific data showing precisely the reverse—that compassion is a state of extreme happiness. </span><br /> <br /> @@ -626,7 +626,7 @@ <ul> <li>Fairness: Never underestimate a person's sense of fairness; it is overwhelming enough that one often may sacrifice their own self-interest for its sake. If you want to influence people, there is no greater power than goodness.</li> </ul><br /> -<h3 style='display: inline' id='DifficultConversations'>Difficult Conversations</h3><br /> +<h3 style='display: inline' id='difficult-conversations'>Difficult Conversations</h3><br /> <br /> <span>Difficult conversations are conversations that are hard to have. They are often important, but because they are hard, we usually prefer to avoid them. Two classic examples of difficult conversations in the workplace are asking for a raise and giving a valued employee critical feedback. Conducting difficult conversations is a skill— an extremely useful one, indeed.</span><br /> <br /> @@ -651,14 +651,14 @@ <br /> <span>The best way to prepare for difficult conversations is to talk to other people. If you prefer to work alone, you may do it as a writing exercise instead.</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='MindfulEMailing'>Mindful E-Mailing</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='mindful-e-mailing'>Mindful E-Mailing</h2><br /> <br /> <span>The biggest problem with e-mail is that the emotional context is often miscommunicated, sometimes with disastrous results. When we talk to another person face-to-face, most of the emotions we communicate with each other are done nonverbally, usually with our facial expressions, tone of voice, postures, and gestures. Most of that communication happens unconsciously.</span><br /> <br /> <span>When we communicate via e-mail, however, we lose that entire mechanism for communicating feelings. But wait, it gets worse. When the brain receives insufficient data about others' feelings, it just makes stuff up. The brain makes assumptions about the emotional context of the message and then fabricates the missing information accordingly. It does not just fabricate information, however. It also automatically believes those fabrications to be true. Worse still, those fabrications usually have a strong negative bias - we usually assume people to have more negative intentions than they actually do. </span><br /> <span>That is why there is so much miscommunication over e-mail. We frequently get offended or frightened by e-mails that were never intended to offend or frighten. Fortunately, mindfulness can help vastly improve the quality of your e-mail communications. The first thing we recollect is that there is a human being on the other end, a human being just like me. The second thing we recollect is this insight that people who receive e-mails unconsciously fabricate missing information about the emotional context of the sender, so we apply the appropriate care and caution.</span><br /> <br /> -<h3 style='display: inline' id='PracticeofMindfulEMailing'>Practice of Mindful E-Mailing</h3><br /> +<h3 style='display: inline' id='practice-of-mindful-e-mailing'>Practice of Mindful E-Mailing</h3><br /> <br /> <ul> <li>Begin by taking one conscious breath. If this is a particularly sensitive situation, calm your mind with a few minutes of Mindfulness Meditation or Walking Meditation.</li> @@ -667,11 +667,11 @@ <li>Before sending, mindfully reflect on the insight that if the emotional context of your message is unclear, the receiver's brain will just make something up that is likely more negative than you intended. Put yourself in the receiver's shoes, pretend you know nothing about the sender's (your) emotional context, pretend also that you have a negative bias, and read your e-mail. Revise your e-mail if necessary.</li> <li>Take one conscious breath before pressing Send. If this is a particularly delicate situation - for example, if you are writing an angry e-mail to your boss or your subordinate - take three slow, conscious breaths before pressing Send. Feel free to change your mind about pressing Send.</li> </ul><br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='ThreeEasyStepstoWorldPeace'>Three Easy Steps to World Peace</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='three-easy-steps-to-world-peace'>Three Easy Steps to World Peace</h2><br /> <br /> <span>With that combination of relaxation and alertness, three wonderful qualities of mind naturally emerge: calmness, clarity, and happiness. Here's an analogy: Think of the mind as a snow globe that is shaken constantly. When you stop shaking the snow globe, the white "snow" particles within it eventually settle, and the fluid in the snow globe becomes calm and clear at the same time. Similarly, the mind is normally in a constant state of agitation. With deep mental relaxation and alertness, the mind settles into calmness and clarity. In this state of mind, the third quality, inner happiness, naturally emerges. </span><br /> <br /> -<h3 style='display: inline' id='AlignMeditationwithRealLife'>Align Meditation with Real Life</h3><br /> +<h3 style='display: inline' id='align-meditation-with-real-life'>Align Meditation with Real Life</h3><br /> <br /> <ul> <li>Everybody knows that "Exercise is good for me." There is no more debate. While it is true that not everybody takes the trouble to work out, even those who don't work out know that they should and that it would be good for them.</li> @@ -680,11 +680,11 @@ </ul><br /> <span>I want to create a world where meditation is widely treated like exercise for the mind.</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='Other'>Other</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='other'>Other</h2><br /> <br /> <span>I see great people. Walking around like regular people. They don't even know they are great.</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='AudioBooknotes'>Audio Book notes</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='audio-book-notes'>Audio Book notes</h2><br /> <br /> <span>Understanding emotional intelligence starts with self-awareness. Mindfulness plays a crucial role in this process. Like a Swiss army knife, mindfulness is versatile and beneficial in any situation.</span><br /> <br /> @@ -712,7 +712,7 @@ <br /> <span>Uncertainty can occupy your mind, preventing you from doing other things.</span><br /> <br /> -<h3 style='display: inline' id='BookstoCheckOut'>Books to Check Out</h3><br /> +<h3 style='display: inline' id='books-to-check-out'>Books to Check Out</h3><br /> <br /> <ul> <li>*Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ* by Daniel Goleman</li> @@ -724,7 +724,7 @@ <li>*Destructive Emotions: How Can We Overcome Them?* by Daniel Goleman</li> <li>*Your Brain at Work* by David Rock</li> </ul><br /> -<h3 style='display: inline' id='Videos'>Videos</h3><br /> +<h3 style='display: inline' id='videos'>Videos</h3><br /> <br /> <a class='textlink' href='http://siybook.com/v/ted_meng'>Chade-Meng Tan on how compassion can be practiced in a corporate setting</a><br /> <a class='textlink' href='http://siybook.com/v/gtalk_dgoleman'>Daniel Goleman on emotional intelligence</a><br /> diff --git a/notes/slow-productivity.html b/notes/slow-productivity.html index 1c7d020e..d3e1d118 100644 --- a/notes/slow-productivity.html +++ b/notes/slow-productivity.html @@ -8,7 +8,7 @@ <link rel="stylesheet" href="style-override.css" /> </head> <body> -<h1 style='display: inline' id='SlowProductivitybooknotes'>"Slow Productivity" book notes</h1><br /> +<h1 style='display: inline' id='slow-productivity-book-notes'>"Slow Productivity" book notes</h1><br /> <br /> <span class='quote'>Published at 2024-04-27T14:18:51+03:00</span><br /> <br /> @@ -32,7 +32,7 @@ <br /> <span>"Slow productivity" does not mean being less productive. Cal Newport wants to point out that you can be much more productive with "slow productivity" than you would be without it. It is a different way of working than most of us are used to in the modern workplace, which is hyper-connected and always online.</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='PseudoproductivityandShallowwork'>Pseudo-productivity and Shallow work</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='pseudo-productivity-and-shallow-work'>Pseudo-productivity and Shallow work</h2><br /> <br /> <span>People use visible activity instead of real productivity because it's easier to measure. This is called pseudo-productivity.</span><br /> <span>Pseudo-productivity is used as a proxy for real productivity. If you don't look busy, you are dismissed as lazy or lacking a work ethic.</span><br /> @@ -41,7 +41,7 @@ <br /> <span>Shallow work usually doesn't help you to accomplish big things. Always have the big picture in mind. Shallow work can't be entirely eliminated, but it can be managed—for example, plan dedicated time slots for certain types of shallow work.</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='Accomplishmentswithoutburnout'>Accomplishments without burnout</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='accomplishments-without-burnout'>Accomplishments without burnout</h2><br /> <br /> <span>The overall perception is that if you want to accomplish something, you must put yourself on the verge of burnout. Cal Newport writes about "The lost Art of Accomplishments without Burnouts", where you can accomplish big things without all the stress usually involved.</span><br /> <br /> @@ -52,7 +52,7 @@ <li>Work at a natural pace</li> <li>Obsess over quality</li> </ul><br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='Dofewerthings'>Do fewer things</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='do-fewer-things'>Do fewer things</h2><br /> <br /> <span>There will always be more work. The faster you finish it, the quicker you will have something new on your plate.</span><br /> <br /> @@ -86,7 +86,7 @@ <br /> <span>Put tasks on autopilot (regular recurring tasks).</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='Workatanaturalpace'>Work at a natural pace</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='work-at-a-natural-pace'>Work at a natural pace</h2><br /> <br /> <span>We suffer from overambitious timelines, task lists, and business. Focus on what matters. Don't rush your most important work to achieve better results.</span><br /> <br /> @@ -102,7 +102,7 @@ <br /> <span>Schedule slow seasons (e.g., when on vacation). Disconnect in the slow season. Doing nothing will not satisfy your mind, though. You could read a book on your subject matter to counteract that.</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='Obsessoverquality'>Obsess over quality </h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='obsess-over-quality-'>Obsess over quality </h2><br /> <br /> <span>Obsess over quality even if you lose short-term opportunities by rejecting other projects. Quality demands you slow down. The two previous two principles (do fewer things and work at a natural pace) are mandatory for this principle to work:</span><br /> <br /> diff --git a/notes/staff-engineer.html b/notes/staff-engineer.html index 30220fa3..af8eaa37 100644 --- a/notes/staff-engineer.html +++ b/notes/staff-engineer.html @@ -8,11 +8,11 @@ <link rel="stylesheet" href="style-override.css" /> </head> <body> -<h1 style='display: inline' id='StaffEngineerbooknotes'>"Staff Engineer" book notes</h1><br /> +<h1 style='display: inline' id='staff-engineer-book-notes'>"Staff Engineer" book notes</h1><br /> <br /> <span class='quote'>Last updated 10.8.2023</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='NotafasterSeniorEngineer'>Not a faster Senior Engineer</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='not-a-faster-senior-engineer'>Not a faster Senior Engineer</h2><br /> <br /> <ul> <li>A Staff engineer is more than just a faster Senior.</li> @@ -26,7 +26,7 @@ <br /> <span>A Staff engineer is, like a Manager, a leader. However, being a Manager is a specific job. Leaders can apply to any job, especially to Staff engineers.</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='TheBalance'>The Balance</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='the-balance'>The Balance</h2><br /> <br /> <span>The more senior you become, the more responsibility you will have to cope with them in less time. Balance your speed of progress with your personal life, don't work late hours and don't skip these personal care events.</span><br /> <br /> @@ -38,7 +38,7 @@ <br /> <span>Sebactical: Take at least six months. Otherwise, it won't be as restored.</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='Morethings'>More things</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='more-things'>More things</h2><br /> <br /> <ul> <li>Provide simple but widely used tools. Complex and powerful tools will have power users but only a very few. All others will not use the tool.</li> diff --git a/notes/the-obstacle-is-the-way.html b/notes/the-obstacle-is-the-way.html index 5615cab6..6a4128f7 100644 --- a/notes/the-obstacle-is-the-way.html +++ b/notes/the-obstacle-is-the-way.html @@ -8,7 +8,7 @@ <link rel="stylesheet" href="style-override.css" /> </head> <body> -<h1 style='display: inline' id='TheObstacleistheWaybooknotes'>"The Obstacle is the Way" book notes</h1><br /> +<h1 style='display: inline' id='the-obstacle-is-the-way-book-notes'>"The Obstacle is the Way" book notes</h1><br /> <br /> <span class='quote'>Published at 2023-05-06T17:23:16+03:00</span><br /> <br /> @@ -29,7 +29,7 @@ <br /> <span>"The obstacle is the way" is a powerful statement that encapsulates the wisdom of turning challenges into opportunities for growth and success. We will explore using obstacles as fuel, transforming weaknesses into strengths, and adopting a mindset that allows us to be creative and persistent in the face of adversity.</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='Reframeyourperspective'>Reframe your perspective</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='reframe-your-perspective'>Reframe your perspective</h2><br /> <br /> <span>The obstacle in your path can become your path to success. Instead of being paralyzed by challenges, see them as opportunities to learn and grow. Remember, the things that hurt us often instruct us. </span><br /> <br /> @@ -38,37 +38,37 @@ <span>Don't always try to use the front door; a backdoor could open. It's nonsense. Don't fight the judo master with judo. Non-action can be action, exposing the weaknesses of others.</span><br /> <br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='Embracerationality'>Embrace rationality</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='embrace-rationality'>Embrace rationality</h2><br /> <br /> <span>It is a superpower to see things rationally when others are fearful. Focus on the reality of the situation without letting emotions, such as anger, cloud your judgment. This ability will enable you to make better decisions in adversity. Ability to see things what they really are. E.g. wine is old fermented grapes, or other people behaving like animals during a fight. Show the middle finger if someone persists on the stupid rules occasionally.</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='Controlyourresponse'>Control your response</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='control-your-response'>Control your response</h2><br /> <br /> <span>You can choose how you respond to obstacles. Focus on what you can control, and don't let yourself feel harmed by external circumstances. Remember, you decide how things affect you; nobody else does. Choose to feel good in response to any situation. Embrace the challenges and obstacles that come your way, as they are opportunities for growth and learning.</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='Practiceemotionalandphysicalresilience'>Practice emotional and physical resilience</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='practice-emotional-and-physical-resilience'>Practice emotional and physical resilience</h2><br /> <br /> <span>Martial artists know the importance of developing physical and emotional strength. Cultivate the art of not panicking; it will help you avoid making mistakes during high-pressure situations.</span><br /> <br /> <span>Focus on what you can control. Don't choose to feel harmed, and then you won't be harmed. I decide things that affect me; nobody else does. E.g., in prison, your mind stays your own. Don't ignore fear but explain it away, have a different view.</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='Persistenceandpatience'>Persistence and patience</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='persistence-and-patience'>Persistence and patience</h2><br /> <br /> <span>Practice persistence and patience in your pursuits. Focus on the process rather than the prize and take one step at a time. Remember, the journey is about finishing tasks, projects, or workouts to the best of your ability. Never be in a hurry and never be desperate. There is no reason to be rushed; there are all in the long haul. Follow the process and not the price. Take it one step at a time. The process is about finishing (workout, task, project, etc.).</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='Embracefailure'>Embrace failure</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='embrace-failure'>Embrace failure</h2><br /> <br /> <span>Failure is a natural part of life and can make us stronger. Treat defeat as a stepping stone to success and education. What is defeat? The first step to education. Failure makes you stronger. If we do our best, we can be proud of it, regardless of the result. Do your job, but do it right. Only an asshole thinks he is too good at the things he does. Also, asking for forgiveness is easier than asking for permission. </span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='Beadaptable'>Be adaptable</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='be-adaptable'>Be adaptable</h2><br /> <br /> <span>There are many ways to achieve your goals; sometimes, unconventional methods are necessary. Feel free to break the rules or go off the beaten path if it will lead to better results. Transform weaknesses into strengths. We have a choice of how to respond to things. It's not about being positive but to be creative. Aim high, but stuff will happen; E.g., surprises will always happen.</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='Embracenonaction'>Embrace non-action</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='embrace-non-action'>Embrace non-action</h2><br /> <br /> <span>We constantly push to the next thing. Sometimes the best course of action is standing still or even going backwards. Obstacles might resolve by themselves. Or going sideways. Sometimes, the best action is to stand still, go sideways, or even go backwards. Obstacles may resolve themselves or present new opportunities if you're patient and observant. People always want your input before you have all the facts. They want you to play after their rules. The question is, do you let them? The English call it the cool head. Being in control of Stress; requires practice. Appear, the absence of fear (Greek). When all others do it one way, it does not mean it is the correct or best practice.</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='Leveragecrisis'>Leverage crisis</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='leverage-crisis'>Leverage crisis</h2><br /> <br /> <span>In times of crisis, seize the chance to do things never done before. Great people use negative situations to their advantage and become the most effective in challenging circumstances.</span><br /> <br /> @@ -76,19 +76,19 @@ <br /> <span>Be prepared for nothing to work. Problems are an opportunity to do your best, not to do miracles. Always manage your expectations. It will suck, but it will be ok. Be prepared to begin from the beginning. Be cheerful and eagerly work on the next obstacle. Each time you become better. Life is not a sprint but a marathon. After each obstacle lies another obstacle, there won't be anything without obstacles. Passing one means you are ready for the next.</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='Buildyourinnercitadel'>Build your inner citadel</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='build-your-inner-citadel'>Build your inner citadel</h2><br /> <br /> <span>Develop your inner strength during good times so you can rely on it in bad times. Always prepare for adversity and face it with calmness and resilience. Be humble enough that things which happen will happen. Build your inner citadel. In good times strengthen it. In bad times rely on it.</span><br /> <br /> <span>We should always prepare for things to get tough. Your house burns down: no worries, we eliminated much rubbish. Imagine what can go wrong before things go wrong. We are prepared for adversity; it's other people who aren't. Phil Jackson's hip problem example. To receive unexpected benefits, you must first accept the unexpected obstacles. Meditate on death. It's a universal obstacle. Use it as a reminder to do your best.</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='Loveeverythingthathappens'>Love everything that happens</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='love-everything-that-happens'>Love everything that happens</h2><br /> <br /> <span>Turn an obstacle the other way around for your benefit. Use it at fuel. It's simple but challenging. Most are paralyzed instead. The obstacle in the path becomes the path. Obstacles are neither good nor bad. The things which hurt, instruct.</span><br /> <br /> <span>Should I hate people who hate me? That's their problem and not mine. Be always calm and relaxed during the fight. The story of the battle is the story of the smile. Cheerfulness in all situations, especially the bad ones. Love for everything that happens; if it happens, it was meant to happen. We can choose how we react to things, so why not choose to feel good? I love everything that happens. You must never lower yourself to the person you don't like.</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='Conclusion'>Conclusion</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='conclusion'>Conclusion</h2><br /> <br /> <span>Life is a marathon, not a sprint. Each obstacle we overcome prepares us for the next one. Remember, the obstacle is not just a barrier to be turned upside down; it can also be used as a catapult to propel us forward. By embracing challenges and using them as opportunities for growth, we become stronger, more adaptable, and, ultimately, more successful.</span><br /> <br /> diff --git a/notes/the-power-of-neuroplasticity.html b/notes/the-power-of-neuroplasticity.html index 5be00508..2db6bbc5 100644 --- a/notes/the-power-of-neuroplasticity.html +++ b/notes/the-power-of-neuroplasticity.html @@ -8,29 +8,29 @@ <link rel="stylesheet" href="style-override.css" /> </head> <body> -<h1 style='display: inline' id='ThePowerofNeuroplasticitybooknotes'>"The Power of Neuroplasticity" book notes</h1><br /> +<h1 style='display: inline' id='the-power-of-neuroplasticity-book-notes'>"The Power of Neuroplasticity" book notes</h1><br /> <br /> <span>These notes capture key points from "The Power of Neuroplasticity" by Shad Helmstetter. These are for my personal use, but you might find them useful, too.</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='Yourthoughtscaninfluencechangesinyourbrain'>Your thoughts can influence changes in your brain</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='your-thoughts-can-influence-changes-in-your-brain'>Your thoughts can influence changes in your brain</h2><br /> <br /> <span>Your thoughts can influence changes in your brain, a concept derived from the field of neuroscience. It's observed that your brain can rewire itself based on your thoughts and it doesn't remain fixed once you reach adulthood. Its plasticity allows it to adapt even in old age - yes, you can teach an old dog new tricks. If you want to change your life, you need to rewire your brain. This rewiring is a continuous feedback loop. You can program your future self by focusing on your desired outcomes, and your brain will then unconsciously guide you toward them. For instance, if you ruminate negatively about an upcoming presentation, you're likely to perform poorly. You would perform significantly better if you had approached it with a positive mindset. Ultimately, you become what you think about most.</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='Wireonwhatwecandoandnotwhatwecant'>Wire on what we can do and not what we can't</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='wire-on-what-we-can-do-and-not-what-we-cant'>Wire on what we can do and not what we can't</h2><br /> <br /> <span>The direction you want to go is more critical than where you've been. Many people tend to focus on what they can't do. Instead, we should rewire our brains to think about what we can accomplish now. The more you repeat a thought, the stronger the pathways in your brain become. It's a case of 'use it or lose it'.</span><br /> <br /> <span>Your environment also plays a role in rewiring your brain, but this can sometimes result in unfavorable outcomes. The world feeds information into your mental computer according to its whims. Mirror neurons fire when we observe another person's behaviors. This is why you yawn when someone else yawns. It's not just actions that get copied, but also feelings and attitudes. When other people influence your thoughts and actions, it's as though they're programming your brain. We have a 'copycat' brain that helps us learn and adapt to the world, forming the basis of empathy.</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='Choosethefriendsyouspendtimewothcarefully'>Choose the friends you spend time woth carefully</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='choose-the-friends-you-spend-time-woth-carefully'>Choose the friends you spend time woth carefully</h2><br /> <br /> <span>Choose the friends you spend time with carefully because they can influence your thoughts. Others' opinions are based on their perspectives and not necessarily aligned with yours. While they may not affect your goals and values, they can provide different viewpoints that are worth consideration when you're open to new insights. It's about exercising independence and choosing your influences wisely. Be aware that even television, if left running in the background, can subtly shape your thoughts. Question its influence and consider if there are better ways to spend your time. Your environment can affect your mood, success, and psychological well-being. Choose hobbies that nourish your mind in desirable ways.</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='Bewareofthebrainsautopilot'>Beware of the brain's autopilot</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='beware-of-the-brains-autopilot'>Beware of the brain's autopilot</h2><br /> <br /> <span>Be mindful of your brain's autopilot mode, which often makes decisions unconsciously, like craving a dessert. It's important to consciously override these automatic behaviors. We're often so preoccupied that we rely on autopilot mode without considering who we really want to be. We need to take charge of our attitudes and feelings. It's a matter of discerning between the mind and the brain.</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='Cultiateapositivemindset'>Cultiate a positive mindset</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='cultiate-a-positive-mindset'>Cultiate a positive mindset</h2><br /> <br /> <span>The seven crucial elements for cultivating a positive mindset are:</span><br /> <br /> @@ -45,11 +45,11 @@ </ul><br /> <span>They all work together, so apply and practise of all of them. </span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='Themonkeymind'>The monkey mind</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='the-monkey-mind'>The monkey mind</h2><br /> <br /> <span>"Mental noise," also known as the "monkey mind," is an indication of our active brain; these voices are not your true self. By listening to them, you can choose what to accept and what to ignore. It's like your mind running on autopilot. These voices are the programs stored in your brain over the years. They critically influence over 90 percent of your decisions. The way you talk to yourself programs your brain. Negative self-talk can be self-detrimental, while positive self-talk can be constructive. Conscious positive self-talk is the source of success and is always effective. The way you talk to yourself can mean the difference between success and failure. Listening passively to positive self-talk in the background can be beneficial, as well as before a meeting or other significant events.</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='Wiringgoodattitudes'>Wiring good attitudes</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='wiring-good-attitudes'>Wiring good attitudes</h2><br /> <br /> <span>Attitudes can form either good or bad habits, and altering these attitudes can be beneficial. Attitudes can be controlled by our will, a choice that we can actively make. Foster and practice positive neuronal pathways, as it's a case of "use it or lose it." For example, anger and jealousy are automatic attitudes that we can control by mindfully thinking about them. We are not born with these attitudes; we learn them. Make a conscious choice about your attitude for the next day on the night before.</span><br /> <br /> @@ -72,7 +72,7 @@ <li>Patients, removing stress</li> <li>Success</li> </ul><br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='Techniquestotrainthebrain'>Techniques to train the brain</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='techniques-to-train-the-brain'>Techniques to train the brain</h2><br /> <br /> <span>To train your brain:</span><br /> <br /> @@ -87,7 +87,7 @@ </ul><br /> <span>Each of these attitudes helps to wire and pattern your brain for growth. Actively participate in activities that reinforce these attitudes, repeat them, and keep doing them. Real focus is not a casual event. The activities should be fun but must also present a reasonable challenge. Think of it as growing a garden, but with your brain's neurons. The more emotional involvement you have, the stronger the rewiring will be. Love your activities and approach them with enthusiasm.</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='Meditation'>Meditation </h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='meditation-'>Meditation </h2><br /> <br /> <span>Meditation changes the physical structure of your brain. It's a focusing tool for your mind.</span><br /> <br /> diff --git a/notes/the-pragmatic-programmer.html b/notes/the-pragmatic-programmer.html index 8267221f..536ecace 100644 --- a/notes/the-pragmatic-programmer.html +++ b/notes/the-pragmatic-programmer.html @@ -8,7 +8,7 @@ <link rel="stylesheet" href="style-override.css" /> </head> <body> -<h1 style='display: inline' id='ThePragmaticProgrammerbooknotes'>"The Pragmatic Programmer" book notes</h1><br /> +<h1 style='display: inline' id='the-pragmatic-programmer-book-notes'>"The Pragmatic Programmer" book notes</h1><br /> <br /> <span class='quote'>Published at 2023-03-16T00:55:20+02:00</span><br /> <br /> @@ -59,7 +59,7 @@ <br /> <span>Do what works and not what's fashionable. E.g. does SCRUM make sense? The goal is to deliver deliverables and not to "become" agile.</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='Continuouslearning'>Continuous learning</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='continuous-learning'>Continuous learning</h2><br /> <br /> <span>Add new tools to your repertoire every day and keep the momentum up. Learning new things is your most crucial aspect. Invest regularly in your knowledge portfolio. The learning process extends your thinking. It does not matter if you will never use it.</span><br /> <br /> @@ -70,7 +70,7 @@ </ul><br /> <span>Think critically about everything you learn. Use paper for your notes. There is something special about it.</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='Stayconnected'>Stay connected</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='stay-connected'>Stay connected</h2><br /> <br /> <span>It's your life, and you own it. Bruce Lee once said: </span><br /> <br /> @@ -83,7 +83,7 @@ </ul><br /> <span>It's your life. Share it, celebrate it, be proud and have fun.</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='Thestoryofstonesoup'>The story of stone soup</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='the-story-of-stone-soup'>The story of stone soup</h2><br /> <br /> <span>How to motivate others to contribute something (e.g. ideas to a startup):</span><br /> <br /> diff --git a/notes/the-stoic-challenge.html b/notes/the-stoic-challenge.html index b48b6a13..6f59afef 100644 --- a/notes/the-stoic-challenge.html +++ b/notes/the-stoic-challenge.html @@ -8,7 +8,7 @@ <link rel="stylesheet" href="style-override.css" /> </head> <body> -<h1 style='display: inline' id='TheStoicChallengebooknotes'>"The Stoic Challenge" book notes</h1><br /> +<h1 style='display: inline' id='the-stoic-challenge-book-notes'>"The Stoic Challenge" book notes</h1><br /> <br /> <span class='quote'>Published at 2024-07-07T12:46:55+03:00</span><br /> <br /> @@ -36,7 +36,7 @@ <br /> <span>Stoics are thankful that they are mortal. As then you can get reminded of how great it is to be alive at all. In dying we are more alive we have ever been as every thing you do could be the last time you do it. Rather than fighting your death you should embrace it if there are no workarounds. Embrace a good death.</span><br /> <br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='Negativevisualization'>Negative visualization</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='negative-visualization'>Negative visualization</h2><br /> <br /> <span>It is easy what we have to take for granted.</span><br /> <br /> @@ -46,7 +46,7 @@ <li>Now close your eyes for a minute and imagine you would be blind, so that you will never be able to experience the world again and let it sink in. When you open your eyes again you will feel a lot of gratefulness.</li> <li>Last time meditation. Lets you appreciate the life as it is now. Life gets vitalised again.</li> </ul><br /> -<h2 style='display: inline' id='Ohnicetrickyoustoicgod'>Oh, nice trick, you stoic "god"! ;-)</h2><br /> +<h2 style='display: inline' id='oh-nice-trick-you-stoic-god--'>Oh, nice trick, you stoic "god"! ;-)</h2><br /> <br /> <span>Take setbacks as a challenge. Also take it with some humor.</span><br /> <br /> |