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diff --git a/notes/a-monks-guide-to-happiness.html b/notes/a-monks-guide-to-happiness.html index e61749dc..cb4c2b8e 100644 --- a/notes/a-monks-guide-to-happiness.html +++ b/notes/a-monks-guide-to-happiness.html @@ -8,7 +8,7 @@ <link rel="stylesheet" href="style-override.css" /> </head> <body> -<h1 style='display: inline'>"A Monk's Guide to Happiness" book notes</h1><br /> +<h1 style='display: inline'>"A Monk's Guide to Happiness" book notes</h1><br /> <br /> <span class='quote'>Last updated 21.5.2023</span><br /> <br /> @@ -25,17 +25,17 @@ <ul> <li>Meditation is not about clearing your mind. A busy mind has nothing to do with interfering with your meditation.</li> <li>Our problem is that we need to detect that awareness. Meditation connects us with awareness. Awareness is freedom.</li> -<li>We can let the mind be and don't care about the thoughts. It will have benefits for your life. It will protect you from all kinds of stress.</li> -<li>Better meditate with open eyes so you don't associate it with the dark. You will also be able to be in a meditation state of mind outside of the meditation session.</li> +<li>We can let the mind be and don't care about the thoughts. It will have benefits for your life. It will protect you from all kinds of stress.</li> +<li>Better meditate with open eyes so you don't associate it with the dark. You will also be able to be in a meditation state of mind outside of the meditation session.</li> <li>Have a baseline for time to build up discipline.</li> -<li>We don't need to do anything about stress, just take a step back.</li> +<li>We don't need to do anything about stress, just take a step back.</li> </ul><br /> <h2 style='display: inline'>Managing Thoughts and Emotions</h2><br /> <br /> <ul> <li>Our flow of emotions is really just habits. That can be changed through training, e.g., meditation training.</li> <li>A part of the mind recognises that we are sad or angry. That part is not sad or angry by itself, obviously. So we can escape to that part of the mind, be the observer, and not draw in the constant flow of emotions and thoughts. </li> -<li>Let the front and back doors of your house open, and let the thoughts come in and leave. Just don't serve them tea. This once said, a great Zen master.</li> +<li>Let the front and back doors of your house open, and let the thoughts come in and leave. Just don't serve them tea. This once said, a great Zen master.</li> <li>Thoughts are friends and not enemies. </li> <li>Thoughts help the meditation as they make us notice that we wandered off, and therefore, we strengthen the reflection.</li> </ul><br /> @@ -44,18 +44,18 @@ <ul> <li>The importance of habits to practice mindfulness. Bring mindfulness into the daily practice.</li> <li>Integrating short moments of mindfulness during the day is the fast track to happiness. Start off with small tasks, e.g. while washing your hands.</li> -<li>Have many small doses of mindfulness and don't prolong as otherwise, your mind will revolt.</li> +<li>Have many small doses of mindfulness and don't prolong as otherwise, your mind will revolt.</li> <li>Have a small moment of mindfulness when you wake up and go to sleep.</li> <li>Practice staying fully present in an uncomfortable situation and without judgement.</li> -<li>Don't become two persons who never meet: the meditator and the not meditator. So integrate mindfulness during the day too.</li> +<li>Don't become two persons who never meet: the meditator and the not meditator. So integrate mindfulness during the day too.</li> </ul><br /> <h2 style='display: inline'>Perspectives on Relationships and Interactions</h2><br /> <br /> <ul> <li>Who is the opponent? The other person. The things he said or our reactions to things? Forgiveness is a high form of compassion.</li> <li>Understand the suffering of the person who "hurt" us. Where is the aggressor really coming from?</li> -<li>People who are stressed or unhappy do and say things they wouldn't have said have done otherwise. Acting under anger is like being influenced by alcohol.</li> -<li>People don't have a masterplan to destroy others, even if it seems so. They are under strong bad influence by themselves. Something terrible happened to them. Revenge makes no sense.</li> +<li>People who are stressed or unhappy do and say things they wouldn't have said have done otherwise. Acting under anger is like being influenced by alcohol.</li> +<li>People don't have a masterplan to destroy others, even if it seems so. They are under strong bad influence by themselves. Something terrible happened to them. Revenge makes no sense.</li> <li>Be grateful for people "trying" to hurt you as they help you to practice your path.</li> </ul><br /> <h2 style='display: inline'>Reflective Questions</h2><br /> @@ -71,15 +71,15 @@ <br /> <ul> <li> Posture is important as the mind and body are connected.</li> -<li> Don't use music, so you don't rely on music to change your state of mind. Similar regular guided meditation. Guided meditation is good for learning a technique, but you should not rely on another voice.</li> +<li> Don't use music, so you don't rely on music to change your state of mind. Similar regular guided meditation. Guided meditation is good for learning a technique, but you should not rely on another voice.</li> <li> You are not trying to relax. Relaxing and trying are two different things.</li> <li> When you love everything, even the bad things happening to you, then you are invincible.</li> <li> Happiness is all in your mind. As if you flip a switch there.</li> <li> Digging for answers will never end. It will always cause more material to dig.</li> </ul><br /> -<span>If happiness is a mental issue. Clearly, the best time is spent training your mind in your free time and don't always be busy with other things. E.g. meditation, or think about the benefits of meditation. All that we do in our free time is search for happiness. Are the things we do actually working? There is always something around the corner...</span><br /> +<span>If happiness is a mental issue. Clearly, the best time is spent training your mind in your free time and don't always be busy with other things. E.g. meditation, or think about the benefits of meditation. All that we do in our free time is search for happiness. Are the things we do actually working? There is always something around the corner...</span><br /> <br /> -<span>E-Mail your comments to hi@paul.cyou :-)</span><br /> +<span>E-Mail your comments to hi@foo.zone :-)</span><br /> <br /> <a class='textlink' href='../'>Back to the main site</a><br /> <p class="footer"> diff --git a/notes/index.html b/notes/index.html index bd232a90..4ef3768a 100644 --- a/notes/index.html +++ b/notes/index.html @@ -12,13 +12,13 @@ <br /> <h2 style='display: inline'>To be in the .zone!</h2><br /> <br /> -<a class='textlink' href='./the-stoic-challenge.html'>'The Stoic Challenge' book notes</a><br /> -<a class='textlink' href='./the-pragmatic-programmer.html'>'The Pragmatic Programmer' book notes</a><br /> -<a class='textlink' href='./the-obstacle-is-the-way.html'>'The Obstacle is the Way' book notes</a><br /> -<a class='textlink' href='./soft-skills.html'>'Software Developmers Career Guide & Soft Skills' book notes</a><br /> -<a class='textlink' href='./never-split-the-difference.html'>'Never split the difference' book notes</a><br /> -<a class='textlink' href='./mental-combat.html'>'Mental Combat' book notes</a><br /> -<a class='textlink' href='./a-monks-guide-to-happiness.html'>'A Monk's Guide to Happiness' book notes</a><br /> +<a class='textlink' href='./the-stoic-challenge.html'>'The Stoic Challenge' book notes</a><br /> +<a class='textlink' href='./the-pragmatic-programmer.html'>'The Pragmatic Programmer' book notes</a><br /> +<a class='textlink' href='./the-obstacle-is-the-way.html'>'The Obstacle is the Way' book notes</a><br /> +<a class='textlink' href='./soft-skills.html'>'Software Developmers Career Guide & Soft Skills' book notes</a><br /> +<a class='textlink' href='./never-split-the-difference.html'>'Never split the difference' book notes</a><br /> +<a class='textlink' href='./mental-combat.html'>'Mental Combat' book notes</a><br /> +<a class='textlink' href='./a-monks-guide-to-happiness.html'>'A Monk's Guide to Happiness' book notes</a><br /> <br /> <span>That were all notes. Hope they were useful!</span><br /> <br /> diff --git a/notes/mental-combat.html b/notes/mental-combat.html index 961384d7..ab63ed78 100644 --- a/notes/mental-combat.html +++ b/notes/mental-combat.html @@ -14,7 +14,7 @@ <br /> <h2 style='display: inline'>Mindfulness</h2><br /> <br /> -<span>We overthink everything. Apply mindfulness. Take a step back and recognize the conflict. Then analyse and react. Mindfulness is experiencing the moment without judgement. Mindfulness can combat all kind of mental issues such as stress for example. Don't think about the future and the past. Be in the now. </span><br /> +<span>We overthink everything. Apply mindfulness. Take a step back and recognize the conflict. Then analyse and react. Mindfulness is experiencing the moment without judgement. Mindfulness can combat all kind of mental issues such as stress for example. Don't think about the future and the past. Be in the now. </span><br /> <br /> <ul> <li>Physical training only does not train your mental performance.</li> @@ -27,21 +27,21 @@ </ul><br /> <h2 style='display: inline'>Motivation</h2><br /> <br /> -<span>Your mind sets limits not to self destruct your body. But there is always a buffer for emergency situations. It is possible to overcome the limits set by your mind. Motivation is everything. Without, you won't do things and will only dream. Or you will give up. Don't be externally motivated but by personal drive. Real training is though. The only way to succeed is motivation. Enjoy the process despite the pain and sweat. In order for this be internal motivated.</span><br /> +<span>Your mind sets limits not to self destruct your body. But there is always a buffer for emergency situations. It is possible to overcome the limits set by your mind. Motivation is everything. Without, you won't do things and will only dream. Or you will give up. Don't be externally motivated but by personal drive. Real training is though. The only way to succeed is motivation. Enjoy the process despite the pain and sweat. In order for this be internal motivated.</span><br /> <br /> <span>If you are not motivated, reevaluate your goals. Is this the right sport for you? Find the inner fire.</span><br /> <br /> <h2 style='display: inline'>Self esteem</h2><br /> <br /> <ul> -<li>Competitive anxiety can interfere with your performance Don't worry at the outcome but focus on the now, e.g. the correct move.</li> -<li>You won't perform well without self esteem. Instead of beating up yourself, have an objective look at what went wrong and strategize.</li> +<li>Competitive anxiety can interfere with your performance Don't worry at the outcome but focus on the now, e.g. the correct move.</li> +<li>You won't perform well without self esteem. Instead of beating up yourself, have an objective look at what went wrong and strategize.</li> <li>Identify why you were nervous and use it as excitement next time and remember to breathe.</li> <li>Choose a key word as a trigger to breath and think positively.</li> </ul><br /> -<span>One way not to lose is not to see a loss as a loss. Think of each defeat as a test. And go back to the drawing board. Don't take a loss emotionally. It's a super power. This is the key. To self improvement. There are no failures but tests.</span><br /> +<span>One way not to lose is not to see a loss as a loss. Think of each defeat as a test. And go back to the drawing board. Don't take a loss emotionally. It's a super power. This is the key. To self improvement. There are no failures but tests.</span><br /> <br /> -<span>E-Mail your comments to hi@paul.cyou :-)</span><br /> +<span>E-Mail your comments to hi@foo.zone :-)</span><br /> <br /> <a class='textlink' href='../'>Back to the main site</a><br /> <p class="footer"> diff --git a/notes/never-split-the-difference.html b/notes/never-split-the-difference.html index 6f69a8e0..99bb0481 100644 --- a/notes/never-split-the-difference.html +++ b/notes/never-split-the-difference.html @@ -16,14 +16,14 @@ <br /> <pre> ,.......... .........., - ,..,' '.' ',.., - ,' ,' : ', ', - ,' ,' : ', ', - ,' ,' : ', ', - ,' ,'............., : ,.............', ', -,' '............ '.' ............' ', - '''''''''''''''''';''';'''''''''''''''''' - ''' + ,..,' '.' ',.., + ,' ,' : ', ', + ,' ,' : ', ', + ,' ,' : ', ', + ,' ,'............., : ,.............', ', +,' '............ '.' ............' ', + '''''''''''''''''';''';'''''''''''''''''' + ''' </pre> <br /> <h2 style='display: inline'>Tactical listening, spreading empathy</h2><br /> @@ -33,7 +33,7 @@ <ul> <li>A mirror needs space and silence between the words. At least 4 seconds.</li> <li>A mirror might be awkward to be used at first, especially with a question coupled to it.</li> -<li>We fear what's different and are drawn to what is similar.</li> +<li>We fear what's different and are drawn to what is similar.</li> </ul><br /> <span>Mirror training is like Jedi training. Simple but effective. A mirror needs space. Be silent after "you want this?" </span><br /> <br /> @@ -47,33 +47,33 @@ <li>Detect and label the emotions of others for your powers. </li> <li>To be understood seems to solve all problems magically.</li> </ul><br /> -<span>Try: to put a label on someone's emotion and then be silent. Wait for the other to reveal himself. "You seem unhappy about this?"</span><br /> +<span>Try: to put a label on someone's emotion and then be silent. Wait for the other to reveal himself. "You seem unhappy about this?"</span><br /> <br /> <h3 style='display: inline'>More tips </h3><br /> <br /> <ul> -<li>Put on a poker face and don't show emotions.</li> -<li>Slow things down. Don't be a problem solver.</li> +<li>Put on a poker face and don't show emotions.</li> +<li>Slow things down. Don't be a problem solver.</li> <li>Smile while you are talking, even on the phone. Be easy and encouraging.</li> <li>Being right is not the key to successful negotiation; being mindful is.</li> <li>Be in the safe zone of empathy and acknowledge bad news.</li> </ul><br /> <h2 style='display: inline'>"No" starts the conversation</h2><br /> <br /> -<span>When the opponent starts with a "no", he feels in control and comfortable. That's why he has to start with "no".</span><br /> +<span>When the opponent starts with a "no", he feels in control and comfortable. That's why he has to start with "no".</span><br /> <br /> <ul> <li>"Yes" and "maybe" might be worthless, but "no" starts the conversation.</li> <li>If someone is saying "no" to you, he will be open to what you have to say next.</li> <li>"No" is not stopping the negotiation but will open up opportunities you were not thinking about before.</li> -<li>Start with "no". Great negotiators seek "no" because that's when the great discussions begin.</li> -<li>A "no" can be scary if you are not used to it. If your biggest fear is "no", then you can't negotiate.</li> +<li>Start with "no". Great negotiators seek "no" because that's when the great discussions begin.</li> +<li>A "no" can be scary if you are not used to it. If your biggest fear is "no", then you can't negotiate.</li> </ul><br /> -<span>Get a "That's right" when negotiating. Don't get a "you're right". You can summarise the opponent to get a "that's right".</span><br /> +<span>Get a "That's right" when negotiating. Don't get a "you're right". You can summarise the opponent to get a "that's right".</span><br /> <br /> <h2 style='display: inline'>Win-win</h2><br /> <br /> -<span>Win-win is a naive approach when encountering the win-lose counterpart, but always cooperate. Don't compromise, and don't split the difference. We don't compromise because it's right; we do it because it is easy. You must embrace the hard stuff; that's where the great deals are.</span><br /> +<span>Win-win is a naive approach when encountering the win-lose counterpart, but always cooperate. Don't compromise, and don't split the difference. We don't compromise because it's right; we do it because it is easy. You must embrace the hard stuff; that's where the great deals are.</span><br /> <br /> <h2 style='display: inline'>On Deadlines</h2><br /> <br /> @@ -99,15 +99,15 @@ <br /> <span>...then put an extreme anker.</span><br /> <br /> -<span>You always have to embrace thoughtful confrontation for good negotiation and life. Don't avoid honest, clear conflict. It will give you the best deals. Compromises are mostly bad deals for both sides. Most people don't negotiate a win-win but a win-lose. Know the best and worst outcomes and what is acceptable for you.</span><br /> +<span>You always have to embrace thoughtful confrontation for good negotiation and life. Don't avoid honest, clear conflict. It will give you the best deals. Compromises are mostly bad deals for both sides. Most people don't negotiate a win-win but a win-lose. Know the best and worst outcomes and what is acceptable for you.</span><br /> <br /> <h2 style='display: inline'>Calibrated question</h2><br /> <br /> <span>Calibrated questions. Give the opponent a sense of power. Ask open-how questions to get the opponent to solve your problem and move him in your direction. Calibrated questions are the best tools. Summarise everything, and then ask, "how I am supposed to do that?". Asking for help this way with a calibrated question is a powerful tool for joint problem solving</span><br /> <br /> -<span>Being calm and respectful is essential. Without control of your emotions, it won't work. The counterpart will have no idea how constrained they are with your question. Avoid questions which get a yes or short answers. Use "why?".</span><br /> +<span>Being calm and respectful is essential. Without control of your emotions, it won't work. The counterpart will have no idea how constrained they are with your question. Avoid questions which get a yes or short answers. Use "why?".</span><br /> <br /> -<span>Counterparts are more involved if these are their solutions. The counterpart must answer with "that's right", not "you are right". He has to own the problem. If not, then add more why questions.</span><br /> +<span>Counterparts are more involved if these are their solutions. The counterpart must answer with "that's right", not "you are right". He has to own the problem. If not, then add more why questions.</span><br /> <br /> <ul> <li>Tone and body language need to align with what people are saying.</li> @@ -119,7 +119,7 @@ <br /> <h2 style='display: inline'>The black swan </h2><br /> <br /> -<span>What we don't know can break our deal. Uncovering it can bring us unexpected success. You get what you ask for in this world, but you must learn to ask correctly. Reveal the black swan by asking questions.</span><br /> +<span>What we don't know can break our deal. Uncovering it can bring us unexpected success. You get what you ask for in this world, but you must learn to ask correctly. Reveal the black swan by asking questions.</span><br /> <br /> <h2 style='display: inline'>More</h2><br /> <br /> @@ -133,8 +133,8 @@ <li>Set an extreme anker. Make the counterpart the illusion of losing something.</li> <li>Hope-based deals. Hope is not a strategy.</li> <li>Tactical empathy, listening as a martial art. It is emotional intelligence on steroids.</li> -<li>Being right isn't the key to a successful negotiation, but having the correct mindset is.</li> -<li>Don't shop the groceries when you are hungry.</li> +<li>Being right isn't the key to a successful negotiation, but having the correct mindset is.</li> +<li>Don't shop the groceries when you are hungry.</li> </ul><br /> <span>Slow.... it.... down....</span><br /> <br /> diff --git a/notes/soft-skills.html b/notes/soft-skills.html index e262cf14..d25e3a23 100644 --- a/notes/soft-skills.html +++ b/notes/soft-skills.html @@ -16,16 +16,16 @@ <br /> <h2 style='display: inline'>Always learn new things</h2><br /> <br /> -<span>When you learn something new, e.g. a programming language, first gather an overview, learn from multiple sources, play around and learn by doing and not consuming and form your own questions. Don't read too much upfront. A large amount of time is spent in learning technical skills which were never use. You want to have a practical set of skills you are actually using. You need to know 20 percent to get out 80 percent of the results.</span><br /> +<span>When you learn something new, e.g. a programming language, first gather an overview, learn from multiple sources, play around and learn by doing and not consuming and form your own questions. Don't read too much upfront. A large amount of time is spent in learning technical skills which were never use. You want to have a practical set of skills you are actually using. You need to know 20 percent to get out 80 percent of the results.</span><br /> <br /> <ul> <li>Learn a technology with a goal, e.g. implement a tool. Practice practise practice.</li> -<li>"I know X can do Y, I don't know exactly how, but I can look it up."</li> +<li>"I know X can do Y, I don't know exactly how, but I can look it up."</li> <li>Read what experts are writing, for example follow blogs. Stay up to date and spent half an hour per day trading blogs and books.</li> <li>Pick an open source application, read the code and try to understand it to get a feel of the syntax of the programming language.</li> <li>Understand, that the standard library makes you a much better programmer.</li> <li>Self learning is the top skill a programmer can have and is also useful in other aspects in your life.</li> -<li>Keep learning skills every day. Code every day. Don't be overconfident for job security. Read blogs, read books.</li> +<li>Keep learning skills every day. Code every day. Don't be overconfident for job security. Read blogs, read books.</li> <li>If you want to learn, then do it by exploring. Also teach what you learned (for example write a blog post or hold a presentation).</li> </ul><br /> <span>Fake it until you make it. But be honest about your abilities or lack of. There is however only time between now and until you make it. Refer to your abilities to learn.</span><br /> @@ -38,10 +38,10 @@ <br /> <h2 style='display: inline'>Ratings</h2><br /> <br /> -<span>That's a trap: If you have to rate yourself, that's a trap. That never works in an unbiased way. Rate yourself always the best way but rate your weakest part as high as possible minus one point. Rate yourself as good as you can otherwise. Nobody is putting for fun a gun on his own head. </span><br /> +<span>That's a trap: If you have to rate yourself, that's a trap. That never works in an unbiased way. Rate yourself always the best way but rate your weakest part as high as possible minus one point. Rate yourself as good as you can otherwise. Nobody is putting for fun a gun on his own head. </span><br /> <br /> <ul> -<li>Don't do peer rating, it can fire back on you. What if the colleague becomes your new boss?</li> +<li>Don't do peer rating, it can fire back on you. What if the colleague becomes your new boss?</li> <li>Cooperate rankings are unfortunately HR guidelines and politics and only mirror a little your actual performance.</li> </ul><br /> <h2 style='display: inline'>Promotions</h2><br /> @@ -49,12 +49,12 @@ <span>The most valuable employees are the ones who make themselves obsolete and automate all away. Keep a safety net of 3 to 6 months of finances. Safe at least 10 percent of your earnings. Also, if you make money it does not mean that you have to spent more money. Is a new car better than a used car which both can bring you from A to B? Liability vs assets.</span><br /> <br /> <ul> -<li>Raise or promotion, what's better? Promotion is better as money will follow anyway then.</li> +<li>Raise or promotion, what's better? Promotion is better as money will follow anyway then.</li> <li>Take projects no-one wants and make them shine. A promotion will follow.</li> <li>A promotion is not going to come to you because you deserve it. You have to hunt and ask for it.</li> <li>Track all kudos (e.g. ask for emails from your colleagues).</li> -<li>Big corporations HRs don't expect a figjit. That's why it's so important to keep track of your accomplishments and kudos'.</li> -<li>If you want a raise be specific how much and know to back your demands. Don't make a thread and no ultimatums.</li> +<li>Big corporations HRs don't expect a figjit. That's why it's so important to keep track of your accomplishments and kudos'.</li> +<li>If you want a raise be specific how much and know to back your demands. Don't make a thread and no ultimatums.</li> <li>Best way for a promotion is to switch jobs. You can even switch back with a better salary.</li> </ul><br /> <h2 style='display: inline'>Finish things</h2><br /> @@ -63,67 +63,67 @@ <br /> <ul> <li>Learn to finish things without motivation. Things will pay off when you stick to stuff and eventually motivation can also come back.</li> -<li>You will fail if you don't plan realistically. Set also a schedule and follow to it as of life depends on it.</li> +<li>You will fail if you don't plan realistically. Set also a schedule and follow to it as of life depends on it.</li> <li>Advances come only of you give more than asked. Consistency, commitment and knowing what you need to do is more key than hard work.</li> <li>Any action is better than no action. If you get stuck you have gained nothing.</li> <li>You need to know the unknowns. Identify as many unknown not known things as possible. </li> </ul><br /> -<span>Hard vs fun: Both engage the brain (video games vs work). Some work is hard and other is easy. Hard work is boring. The harsh truth is you have to put in hard and boring work in order to accomplish and be successful. Work won't be always boring though, as joy will follow with mastery.</span><br /> +<span>Hard vs fun: Both engage the brain (video games vs work). Some work is hard and other is easy. Hard work is boring. The harsh truth is you have to put in hard and boring work in order to accomplish and be successful. Work won't be always boring though, as joy will follow with mastery.</span><br /> <br /> -<span>Defeat is finally give up. Failure is the road to success, embrace it. Failure does not define you but how you respond to it. Events don't make your unhappy, but how you react to events do.</span><br /> +<span>Defeat is finally give up. Failure is the road to success, embrace it. Failure does not define you but how you respond to it. Events don't make your unhappy, but how you react to events do.</span><br /> <br /> <h2 style='display: inline'>Expand the empire</h2><br /> <br /> <span>The larger your empire is, the larger your circle of influence is. The larger the circle of influence is, the more opportunities you have.</span><br /> <br /> <ul> -<li>Do the dirty work if you want to expand the empire. That's there the opportunities are.</li> +<li>Do the dirty work if you want to expand the empire. That's there the opportunities are.</li> <li>SCRUM often fails due to the lack to commitment. The backlog just becomes a wish to get completed.</li> -<li>Apply work on your quality standards. Don't cross the line of compromise. Always improve your skills. Never be happy being good enough.</li> +<li>Apply work on your quality standards. Don't cross the line of compromise. Always improve your skills. Never be happy being good enough.</li> </ul><br /> <span>Become visible, keep track that you accomplishments. E.g. write a weekly summary. Do presentations, be seen. Learn new things and share your learnings. Be the problem solver and not the blamer.</span><br /> <br /> <h2 style='display: inline'>Be pragmatic and also manage your time</h2><br /> <br /> -<span>Make use of time boxing via the Pomodoro technique: Set a target of rounds and track the rounds. That give you exact focused work time. That's really the trick. For example set a goal of 6 daily pomodores.</span><br /> +<span>Make use of time boxing via the Pomodoro technique: Set a target of rounds and track the rounds. That give you exact focused work time. That's really the trick. For example set a goal of 6 daily pomodores.</span><br /> <br /> <ul> -<li>Every time you do something question why does it make sense be pragmatic and don't follow because it is best practice.</li> +<li>Every time you do something question why does it make sense be pragmatic and don't follow because it is best practice.</li> <li>You can also apply the time boxing technique (Cal Newport) for focused deep work.</li> </ul><br /> -<span>You should feel good of the work done even if you don't finished the task. You will feel good about pomodoro wise even you don't finish the task on hand yet. Helps you to enjoy time off more. Working longer may not sell anything.</span><br /> +<span>You should feel good of the work done even if you don't finished the task. You will feel good about pomodoro wise even you don't finish the task on hand yet. Helps you to enjoy time off more. Working longer may not sell anything.</span><br /> <br /> <h3 style='display: inline'>The quota system</h3><br /> <br /> -<span>Defined quota of things done. E.g. N runs per week or M Blog posts per month or O pomodoros per week. This helps with consistency. Truly commit to these quotas. Failure is not an option. Start with small commitments. Don't commit to something you can't fulfill otherwise you set yourself up for failure.</span><br /> +<span>Defined quota of things done. E.g. N runs per week or M Blog posts per month or O pomodoros per week. This helps with consistency. Truly commit to these quotas. Failure is not an option. Start with small commitments. Don't commit to something you can't fulfill otherwise you set yourself up for failure.</span><br /> <br /> <ul> <li>Why does the quota System work? Slow and consistent pace is the key. It also overcomes willpower weaknesses as goals are preset.</li> <li>Internal motivation is more important over external motivation. Check out Daniels book drive.</li> <li>Multitasking: Batching is effective. E.g. emails twice daily at pre-set times..</li> </ul><br /> -<h3 style='display: inline'>Don't waste time</h3><br /> +<h3 style='display: inline'>Don't waste time</h3><br /> <br /> -<span>The biggest time waster is TV watching. The TV is programming you. It's insane that Americans watch so much TV as they work full time. Schedule one show at a time and watch it when you want to watch it. Most movies are crap anyways. The good movies will come to you as people will talk about them.</span><br /> +<span>The biggest time waster is TV watching. The TV is programming you. It's insane that Americans watch so much TV as they work full time. Schedule one show at a time and watch it when you want to watch it. Most movies are crap anyways. The good movies will come to you as people will talk about them.</span><br /> <br /> <ul> <li>Social media is time waster as well. Schedule your Social Media times. For example be on Facebook only for max one hour on Saturdays.</li> -<li>Meetings can waste time as well. Simply don't go to them. Try to cancel meeting if it can be dealt with via email.</li> +<li>Meetings can waste time as well. Simply don't go to them. Try to cancel meeting if it can be dealt with via email.</li> <li>Enjoying things is not a waste of time. E.g. you could still play a game once in a while. It is important not to cut away all you enjoy from your life.</li> </ul><br /> <h3 style='display: inline'>Habits</h3><br /> <br /> <span>Try to have as many good habits as possible. Start with easy habits, and make them a little bit more challenging over time. Set ankers and rewards. Over time the routines will become habits naturally.</span><br /> <br /> -<span>Habit stacking is effective, which is combining multiple habits at the same time. For example you can workout on a circular trainer while while watching a learning video on O'Reilly Safari Online while getting closer to your weekly step goal.</span><br /> +<span>Habit stacking is effective, which is combining multiple habits at the same time. For example you can workout on a circular trainer while while watching a learning video on O'Reilly Safari Online while getting closer to your weekly step goal.</span><br /> <br /> <ul> -<li>We don't have control over our habits but our own routines.</li> +<li>We don't have control over our habits but our own routines.</li> <li>Routines help to form the habits, though.</li> </ul><br /> <h1 style='display: inline'>Work-life balance</h1><br /> <br /> -<span>Avoid overwork hours. That's not as beneficial as you might think and comes only with very small rewards. Invest rather in yourself and not in your employer.</span><br /> +<span>Avoid overwork hours. That's not as beneficial as you might think and comes only with very small rewards. Invest rather in yourself and not in your employer.</span><br /> <br /> <ul> <li>Work-life balance is a myth. Make it so that you enjoy work and your personal life and not just personal life.</li> @@ -140,13 +140,13 @@ <li>Positive thinking can be trained and be a habit. Read the book "The Power of Positive Thinking".</li> <li>Stoicism helps. Meditation helps. Playing for fun helps too.</li> </ul><br /> -<span>Become the person you want to become (your self image). Program your brain unconsciously. Don't become the person other people want you to be. Embrace yourself, you are you.</span><br /> +<span>Become the person you want to become (your self image). Program your brain unconsciously. Don't become the person other people want you to be. Embrace yourself, you are you.</span><br /> <br /> -<span>In most cases burnout is just an illusion. If you don't have motivation push through the wall. People usually don't pass the wall as they feel they are burned out. After pushing through the wall you will have the most fun, for example you will be able playing the guitar greatly.</span><br /> +<span>In most cases burnout is just an illusion. If you don't have motivation push through the wall. People usually don't pass the wall as they feel they are burned out. After pushing through the wall you will have the most fun, for example you will be able playing the guitar greatly.</span><br /> <br /> <h2 style='display: inline'>Physical health</h2><br /> <br /> -<span>Utilise a standing desk and treadmill (you could walk and type at the same time). Increase the incline in order to burn more calories. Even on the standing desk you burn more calories than sitting. When you use pomodoro then you can use the small breaks for push-ups (maybe won't do as good when you are in a fasted state).</span><br /> +<span>Utilise a standing desk and treadmill (you could walk and type at the same time). Increase the incline in order to burn more calories. Even on the standing desk you burn more calories than sitting. When you use pomodoro then you can use the small breaks for push-ups (maybe won't do as good when you are in a fasted state).</span><br /> <br /> <ul> <li>You can only do one thing, lose fat or gain muscles. Not both at the same time.</li> @@ -158,19 +158,19 @@ <br /> <h2 style='display: inline'>No drama</h2><br /> <br /> -<span>Avoid drama at work. Where are humans there is drama. You can decide where to spent your energy in. But don't avoid conflict. Conflict is healthy in any kind of relationship. Be tactful and state your opinion. The goal is to find the best solution to the problem.</span><br /> +<span>Avoid drama at work. Where are humans there is drama. You can decide where to spent your energy in. But don't avoid conflict. Conflict is healthy in any kind of relationship. Be tactful and state your opinion. The goal is to find the best solution to the problem.</span><br /> <br /> -<span>Don't worry about other people what they do and don't do. You only worry about you. Shut up and get your own things done. But you could help to inspire a not working colleague.</span><br /> +<span>Don't worry about other people what they do and don't do. You only worry about you. Shut up and get your own things done. But you could help to inspire a not working colleague.</span><br /> <br /> <ul> -<li>During an argument, take the opponent's position and see how your opinion changes.</li> -<li>If you they to convince someone else it's an argument. Of you try to find the best solution it is a good resolution.</li> +<li>During an argument, take the opponent's position and see how your opinion changes.</li> +<li>If you they to convince someone else it's an argument. Of you try to find the best solution it is a good resolution.</li> <li>If someone is hurting the team let the manager know but phrase it nicely.</li> -<li>How to get rid of a never ending talking person? Set up focus hours officially where you don't want to be interrupted. Present as if it is your defect that you get interrupted easily.</li> +<li>How to get rid of a never ending talking person? Set up focus hours officially where you don't want to be interrupted. Present as if it is your defect that you get interrupted easily.</li> <li>TOXIC PEOPLE: AVOID THEM. RUN.</li> <li>Boss likes if you get shit done without getting asked all the time about things and also without drama.</li> </ul><br /> -<span>You have to learn how to work in a team. Be honest but tactful. It's not too be the loudest but about selling your ideas. Don't argue otherwise you won't sell anything. Be persuasive by finding the common ground. Or lead the colleagues to your idea and don't sell it upfront. Communicate clearly.</span><br /> +<span>You have to learn how to work in a team. Be honest but tactful. It's not too be the loudest but about selling your ideas. Don't argue otherwise you won't sell anything. Be persuasive by finding the common ground. Or lead the colleagues to your idea and don't sell it upfront. Communicate clearly.</span><br /> <br /> <h1 style='display: inline'>Personal brand</h1><br /> <br /> @@ -184,16 +184,16 @@ <li>The best way to market yourself is to make you usable.</li> <li>Create a brand. Decide your focus. Throw your name out as often as possible.</li> </ul><br /> -<span>Have a blog. Schedule your posts. Consistency beats every other factor. E.g. post once a month a new post. Find your voice, you don't have to sound academic. Keep writing, if you keep it long enough the rewards will be coming. Your own blog can take 5 years to take off. Most people give up too soon.</span><br /> +<span>Have a blog. Schedule your posts. Consistency beats every other factor. E.g. post once a month a new post. Find your voice, you don't have to sound academic. Keep writing, if you keep it long enough the rewards will be coming. Your own blog can take 5 years to take off. Most people give up too soon.</span><br /> <br /> <ul> -<li>Consistency of your blog is key. Also write quality content. Don't try to be a man of success but try to be a man of value.</li> +<li>Consistency of your blog is key. Also write quality content. Don't try to be a man of success but try to be a man of value.</li> <li>Have an elevator pitch: "buetow.org - Having fun with computers!"</li> <li>Have social media accounts, especially the ones which are more tech related.</li> </ul><br /> <h2 style='display: inline'>Networking</h2><br /> <br /> -<span>Ask people so they talk about themselves. They are not really interested in you. Use meetup.com to find groups you are interested and build up the network over time. Don't drink on social networking events even when others do. Talking to other people at events only has upsides. Just saying "hi" and introducing yourself is enough. What worse can happen? If the person rejects you so what, life goes on. Ask open questions and no "yes" and "no" questions. E.g.: "What is your story, why are you here?".</span><br /> +<span>Ask people so they talk about themselves. They are not really interested in you. Use meetup.com to find groups you are interested and build up the network over time. Don't drink on social networking events even when others do. Talking to other people at events only has upsides. Just saying "hi" and introducing yourself is enough. What worse can happen? If the person rejects you so what, life goes on. Ask open questions and no "yes" and "no" questions. E.g.: "What is your story, why are you here?".</span><br /> <br /> <h2 style='display: inline'>Public speaking</h2><br /> <br /> @@ -246,16 +246,16 @@ <h2 style='display: inline'>Negotiation</h2><br /> <br /> <ul> -<li>Whoever names the number first loses. You don't know what someone else is expecting unless told. Low ball number may be an issue but you have to know the market.</li> +<li>Whoever names the number first loses. You don't know what someone else is expecting unless told. Low ball number may be an issue but you have to know the market.</li> <li>Salary is not about what you need but what you are worth. Try to find out what you are worth.</li> <li>Big tech companies have a pay scale. You can ask for this.</li> -<li>Don't tell your current salary. Only do one counter offer and say "If you do X then I commit today". Be tactful and not rude. Nobody wants to be taken advantage of. Also, don't be arrogant.</li> +<li>Don't tell your current salary. Only do one counter offer and say "If you do X then I commit today". Be tactful and not rude. Nobody wants to be taken advantage of. Also, don't be arrogant.</li> <li>If the company wants to know your range, respond: "I would rather learn more about the job and compensation. You have a range in mind, correct?" Be brave and just pause here.</li> <li>Otherwise, if the company refuses then say "if you tell me what the range is and although I am not yet sure yet what are my exact salary requirements are I can see if the range is of what I am looking for. If they absolute refuse give a high ball range you would expect and make it conditional to the overall compensation package. E.g. 70k to 100k depending on the compensation package. THE LOW END SHOULD BE YOUR REAL LOW END. Play a little bit of hardball here and be brave. Practise it.</li> <li>Put 10 percent on top of the salary range into a counter offer.</li> <li>Everything is negotiable, not only the salary.</li> <li>Job markup rate: Check it regarding the recruitment rate negotiation.</li> -<li>Don't make a rushed decision based on deadlines. Make a fairly high counter offer shortly before deadline.</li> +<li>Don't make a rushed decision based on deadlines. Make a fairly high counter offer shortly before deadline.</li> <li>You should also cope with rejections while selling yourself. There is no such thing as job security.</li> </ul><br /> <ul> @@ -263,17 +263,17 @@ </ul><br /> <h2 style='display: inline'>Leaving the old job</h2><br /> <br /> -<span>When leaving a job make a clean and non personal as possible. Never complain and never explain. Don't worry about abandonment of the team. Everybody is replacement and you make a business decision. Don't threaten to quit as you are replaceable.</span><br /> +<span>When leaving a job make a clean and non personal as possible. Never complain and never explain. Don't worry about abandonment of the team. Everybody is replacement and you make a business decision. Don't threaten to quit as you are replaceable.</span><br /> <br /> <h1 style='display: inline'>Other things</h1><br /> <br /> <ul> -<li>As a leader lead by example and don't lead from the Eiffel tower.</li> -<li>As a leader you are responsible for the team. If the team fails then it's your fault only.</li> +<li>As a leader lead by example and don't lead from the Eiffel tower.</li> +<li>As a leader you are responsible for the team. If the team fails then it's your fault only.</li> </ul><br /> <h2 style='display: inline'>Testing</h2><br /> <br /> -<span>Unit testing Vs regression testing: Unit tests test the smallest possible unit and get rewritten if the unit gets changed. It's like programming against a specification n. Regression tests test whether the software still works after the change. Now you know more than most software engineers.</span><br /> +<span>Unit testing Vs regression testing: Unit tests test the smallest possible unit and get rewritten if the unit gets changed. It's like programming against a specification n. Regression tests test whether the software still works after the change. Now you know more than most software engineers.</span><br /> <br /> <h2 style='display: inline'>Books to read</h2><br /> <br /> @@ -282,19 +282,19 @@ <li>Code Complete</li> <li>Cracking the Interview - Lessons and Solutions.</li> <li>Daniels Book "Drive" (about internal and external motivation)</li> -<li>God's degree (inventor of Dilbert)</li> +<li>God's degree (inventor of Dilbert)</li> <li>Head first Design Patterns</li> <li>How to win Friends and influence People</li> <li>Never Split the Difference [X]</li> <li>Structure and programming functional programs</li> <li>The obstacle is the way [X]</li> <li>The passionate programmer</li> -<li>The Power of Positive Thinking (Highly religious - I personally don't like it)</li> +<li>The Power of Positive Thinking (Highly religious - I personally don't like it)</li> <li>The Pragmatic Programmer [X]</li> <li>The war of Art (to combat procrastination)</li> <li>Willpower Instinct</li> </ul><br /> -<span>E-Mail your comments to hi@paul.cyou :-)</span><br /> +<span>E-Mail your comments to hi@foo.zone :-)</span><br /> <br /> <a class='textlink' href='../'>Back to the main site</a><br /> <p class="footer"> diff --git a/notes/the-obstacle-is-the-way.html b/notes/the-obstacle-is-the-way.html index 49ed1511..397351b7 100644 --- a/notes/the-obstacle-is-the-way.html +++ b/notes/the-obstacle-is-the-way.html @@ -17,14 +17,14 @@ <br /> <pre> ,.......... .........., - ,..,' '.' ',.., - ,' ,' : ', ', - ,' ,' : ', ', - ,' ,' : ', ', - ,' ,'............., : ,.............', ', -,' '............ '.' ............' ', - '''''''''''''''''';''';'''''''''''''''''' - ''' + ,..,' '.' ',.., + ,' ,' : ', ', + ,' ,' : ', ', + ,' ,' : ', ', + ,' ,'............., : ,.............', ', +,' '............ '.' ............' ', + '''''''''''''''''';''';'''''''''''''''''' + ''' </pre> <br /> <span>"The obstacle is the way" is a powerful statement that encapsulates the wisdom of turning challenges into opportunities for growth and success. We will explore using obstacles as fuel, transforming weaknesses into strengths, and adopting a mindset that allows us to be creative and persistent in the face of adversity.</span><br /> @@ -33,9 +33,9 @@ <br /> <span>The obstacle in your path can become your path to success. Instead of being paralyzed by challenges, see them as opportunities to learn and grow. Remember, the things that hurt us often instruct us. </span><br /> <br /> -<span>We spend a lot of time trying to get things perfect and look at the rules, but what matters is that it works; it doesn't need to be after the book. Focus on results rather than on beautiful methods. In Jujitsu, it does matter that you bring your opponent down, but not how. There are many ways from point A to point B; it doesn't need to be a straight line. So many try to find the best solution but need to catch up on what is in Infront of them. Think progress and not perfection.</span><br /> +<span>We spend a lot of time trying to get things perfect and look at the rules, but what matters is that it works; it doesn't need to be after the book. Focus on results rather than on beautiful methods. In Jujitsu, it does matter that you bring your opponent down, but not how. There are many ways from point A to point B; it doesn't need to be a straight line. So many try to find the best solution but need to catch up on what is in Infront of them. Think progress and not perfection.</span><br /> <br /> -<span>Don't always try to use the front door; a backdoor could open. It's nonsense. Don't fight the judo master with judo. Non-action can be action, exposing the weaknesses of others.</span><br /> +<span>Don't always try to use the front door; a backdoor could open. It's nonsense. Don't fight the judo master with judo. Non-action can be action, exposing the weaknesses of others.</span><br /> <br /> <br /> <h2 style='display: inline'>Embrace rationality</h2><br /> @@ -44,13 +44,13 @@ <br /> <h2 style='display: inline'>Control your response</h2><br /> <br /> -<span>You can choose how you respond to obstacles. Focus on what you can control, and don't let yourself feel harmed by external circumstances. Remember, you decide how things affect you; nobody else does. Choose to feel good in response to any situation. Embrace the challenges and obstacles that come your way, as they are opportunities for growth and learning.</span><br /> +<span>You can choose how you respond to obstacles. Focus on what you can control, and don't let yourself feel harmed by external circumstances. Remember, you decide how things affect you; nobody else does. Choose to feel good in response to any situation. Embrace the challenges and obstacles that come your way, as they are opportunities for growth and learning.</span><br /> <br /> <h2 style='display: inline'>Practice emotional and physical resilience</h2><br /> <br /> <span>Martial artists know the importance of developing physical and emotional strength. Cultivate the art of not panicking; it will help you avoid making mistakes during high-pressure situations.</span><br /> <br /> -<span>Focus on what you can control. Don't choose to feel harmed, and then you won't be harmed. I decide things that affect me; nobody else does. E.g., in prison, your mind stays your own. Don't ignore fear but explain it away, have a different view.</span><br /> +<span>Focus on what you can control. Don't choose to feel harmed, and then you won't be harmed. I decide things that affect me; nobody else does. E.g., in prison, your mind stays your own. Don't ignore fear but explain it away, have a different view.</span><br /> <br /> <h2 style='display: inline'>Persistence and patience</h2><br /> <br /> @@ -62,11 +62,11 @@ <br /> <h2 style='display: inline'>Be adaptable</h2><br /> <br /> -<span>There are many ways to achieve your goals; sometimes, unconventional methods are necessary. Feel free to break the rules or go off the beaten path if it will lead to better results. Transform weaknesses into strengths. We have a choice of how to respond to things. It's not about being positive but to be creative. Aim high, but stuff will happen; E.g., surprises will always happen.</span><br /> +<span>There are many ways to achieve your goals; sometimes, unconventional methods are necessary. Feel free to break the rules or go off the beaten path if it will lead to better results. Transform weaknesses into strengths. We have a choice of how to respond to things. It's not about being positive but to be creative. Aim high, but stuff will happen; E.g., surprises will always happen.</span><br /> <br /> <h2 style='display: inline'>Embrace non-action</h2><br /> <br /> -<span>We constantly push to the next thing. Sometimes the best course of action is standing still or even going backwards. Obstacles might resolve by themselves. Or going sideways. Sometimes, the best action is to stand still, go sideways, or even go backwards. Obstacles may resolve themselves or present new opportunities if you're patient and observant. People always want your input before you have all the facts. They want you to play after their rules. The question is, do you let them? The English call it the cool head. Being in control of Stress; requires practice. Appear, the absence of fear (Greek). When all others do it one way, it does not mean it is the correct or best practice.</span><br /> +<span>We constantly push to the next thing. Sometimes the best course of action is standing still or even going backwards. Obstacles might resolve by themselves. Or going sideways. Sometimes, the best action is to stand still, go sideways, or even go backwards. Obstacles may resolve themselves or present new opportunities if you're patient and observant. People always want your input before you have all the facts. They want you to play after their rules. The question is, do you let them? The English call it the cool head. Being in control of Stress; requires practice. Appear, the absence of fear (Greek). When all others do it one way, it does not mean it is the correct or best practice.</span><br /> <br /> <h2 style='display: inline'>Leverage crisis</h2><br /> <br /> @@ -74,19 +74,19 @@ <br /> <span>The art of not panicking; otherwise, you will make mistakes. When overs are shocked, you know which way to take due to your thinking of the problem at Hand. A crisis gives you a chance to do things which never done before. Ordinary people shy from negative situations; great people use these for their benefit and are the most effective. The obstacle is not just turned upside down but used as a catapult.</span><br /> <br /> -<span>Be prepared for nothing to work. Problems are an opportunity to do your best, not to do miracles. Always manage your expectations. It will suck, but it will be ok. Be prepared to begin from the beginning. Be cheerful and eagerly work on the next obstacle. Each time you become better. Life is not a sprint but a marathon. After each obstacle lies another obstacle, there won't be anything without obstacles. Passing one means you are ready for the next.</span><br /> +<span>Be prepared for nothing to work. Problems are an opportunity to do your best, not to do miracles. Always manage your expectations. It will suck, but it will be ok. Be prepared to begin from the beginning. Be cheerful and eagerly work on the next obstacle. Each time you become better. Life is not a sprint but a marathon. After each obstacle lies another obstacle, there won't be anything without obstacles. Passing one means you are ready for the next.</span><br /> <br /> <h2 style='display: inline'>Build your inner citadel</h2><br /> <br /> <span>Develop your inner strength during good times so you can rely on it in bad times. Always prepare for adversity and face it with calmness and resilience. Be humble enough that things which happen will happen. Build your inner citadel. In good times strengthen it. In bad times rely on it.</span><br /> <br /> -<span>We should always prepare for things to get tough. Your house burns down: no worries, we eliminated much rubbish. Imagine what can go wrong before things go wrong. We are prepared for adversity; it's other people who aren't. Phil Jackson's hip problem example. To receive unexpected benefits, you must first accept the unexpected obstacles. Meditate on death. It's a universal obstacle. Use it as a reminder to do your best.</span><br /> +<span>We should always prepare for things to get tough. Your house burns down: no worries, we eliminated much rubbish. Imagine what can go wrong before things go wrong. We are prepared for adversity; it's other people who aren't. Phil Jackson's hip problem example. To receive unexpected benefits, you must first accept the unexpected obstacles. Meditate on death. It's a universal obstacle. Use it as a reminder to do your best.</span><br /> <br /> <h2 style='display: inline'>Love everything that happens</h2><br /> <br /> -<span>Turn an obstacle the other way around for your benefit. Use it at fuel. It's simple but challenging. Most are paralyzed instead. The obstacle in the path becomes the path. Obstacles are neither good nor bad. The things which hurt, instruct.</span><br /> +<span>Turn an obstacle the other way around for your benefit. Use it at fuel. It's simple but challenging. Most are paralyzed instead. The obstacle in the path becomes the path. Obstacles are neither good nor bad. The things which hurt, instruct.</span><br /> <br /> -<span>Should I hate people who hate me? That's their problem and not mine. Be always calm and relaxed during the fight. The story of the battle is the story of the smile. Cheerfulness in all situations, especially the bad ones. Love for everything that happens; if it happens, it was meant to happen. We can choose how we react to things, so why not choose to feel good? I love everything that happens. You must never lower yourself to the person you don't like.</span><br /> +<span>Should I hate people who hate me? That's their problem and not mine. Be always calm and relaxed during the fight. The story of the battle is the story of the smile. Cheerfulness in all situations, especially the bad ones. Love for everything that happens; if it happens, it was meant to happen. We can choose how we react to things, so why not choose to feel good? I love everything that happens. You must never lower yourself to the person you don't like.</span><br /> <br /> <h2 style='display: inline'>Conclusion</h2><br /> <br /> diff --git a/notes/the-pragmatic-programmer.html b/notes/the-pragmatic-programmer.html index b6e76e9a..2e98b540 100644 --- a/notes/the-pragmatic-programmer.html +++ b/notes/the-pragmatic-programmer.html @@ -16,14 +16,14 @@ <br /> <pre> ,.......... .........., - ,..,' '.' ',.., - ,' ,' : ', ', - ,' ,' : ', ', - ,' ,' : ', ', - ,' ,'............., : ,.............', ', -,' '............ '.' ............' ', - '''''''''''''''''';''';'''''''''''''''''' - ''' + ,..,' '.' ',.., + ,' ,' : ', ', + ,' ,' : ', ', + ,' ,' : ', ', + ,' ,'............., : ,.............', ', +,' '............ '.' ............' ', + '''''''''''''''''';''';'''''''''''''''''' + ''' </pre> <br /> <span>Think about your work while doing it - every day on every project. Have a feeling of continuous improvement. </span><br /> @@ -43,7 +43,7 @@ <li>Crashing is often the best thing you can do. </li> <li>Changes should be reversible.</li> </ul><br /> -<span>Erlang: Defensive programming is a waste of time. Let it crash. "This can never happen" - don't practise that kind of self-deception when programming. </span><br /> +<span>Erlang: Defensive programming is a waste of time. Let it crash. "This can never happen" - don't practise that kind of self-deception when programming. </span><br /> <br /> <span>Leave assertions in the code, even in production. Only leave out the assertions causing the performance issues.</span><br /> <br /> @@ -55,9 +55,9 @@ <li>Refactor now and not later.</li> <li>Later, it will be even more painful.</li> </ul><br /> -<span>Don't think outside the box. Find the box. The box is more extensive than you think. Think about the hard problem at hand. Do you have to do it a certain way, or do you have to do it at all?</span><br /> +<span>Don't think outside the box. Find the box. The box is more extensive than you think. Think about the hard problem at hand. Do you have to do it a certain way, or do you have to do it at all?</span><br /> <br /> -<span>Do what works and not what's fashionable. E.g. does SCRUM make sense? The goal is to deliver deliverables and not to "become" agile.</span><br /> +<span>Do what works and not what's fashionable. E.g. does SCRUM make sense? The goal is to deliver deliverables and not to "become" agile.</span><br /> <br /> <h2 style='display: inline'>Continuous learning</h2><br /> <br /> @@ -72,7 +72,7 @@ <br /> <h2 style='display: inline'>Stay connected</h2><br /> <br /> -<span>It's your life, and you own it. Bruce Lee once said: </span><br /> +<span>It's your life, and you own it. Bruce Lee once said: </span><br /> <br /> <span class='quote'>"I am not on the world to life after your expectations, neither are you to life after mine."</span><br /> <br /> @@ -81,13 +81,13 @@ <li>Stay current.</li> <li>Dealing with computers is hard. Dealing with people is harder. </li> </ul><br /> -<span>It's your life. Share it, celebrate it, be proud and have fun.</span><br /> +<span>It's your life. Share it, celebrate it, be proud and have fun.</span><br /> <br /> <h2 style='display: inline'>The story of stone soup</h2><br /> <br /> <span>How to motivate others to contribute something (e.g. ideas to a startup):</span><br /> <br /> -<span class='quote'>A kindly, old stranger was walking through the land when he came upon a village. As he entered, the villagers moved towards their homes, locking doors and windows. The stranger smiled and asked, why are you all so frightened. I am a simple traveler, looking for a soft place to stay for the night and a warm place for a meal. "There's not a bite to eat in the whole province," he was told. "We are weak and our children are starving. Better keep moving on." "Oh, I have everything I need," he said. "In fact, I was thinking of making some stone soup to share with all of you." He pulled an iron cauldron from his cloak, filled it with water, and began to build a fire under it. Then, with great ceremony, he drew an ordinary-looking stone from a silken bag and dropped it into the water. By now, hearing the rumor of food, most of the villagers had come out of their homes or watched from their windows. As the stranger sniffed the "broth" and licked his lips in anticipation, hunger began to overcome their fear. "Ahh," the stranger said to himself rather loudly, "I do like a tasty stone soup. Of course, stone soup with cabbage -- that's hard to beat." Soon a villager approached hesitantly, holding a small cabbage he'd retrieved from its hiding place, and added it to the pot. "Wonderful!!" cried the stranger. "You know, I once had stone soup with cabbage and a bit of salt beef as well, and it was fit for a king." The village butcher managed to find some salt beef . . . And so it went, through potatoes, onions, carrots, mushrooms, and so on, until there was indeed a delicious meal for everyone in the village to share. The village elder offered the stranger a great deal of money for the magic stone, but he refused to sell it and traveled on the next day. As he left, the stranger came upon a group of village children standing near the road. He gave the silken bag containing the stone to the youngest child, whispering to a group, "It was not the stone, but the villagers that had performed the magic." </span><br /> +<span class='quote'>A kindly, old stranger was walking through the land when he came upon a village. As he entered, the villagers moved towards their homes, locking doors and windows. The stranger smiled and asked, why are you all so frightened. I am a simple traveler, looking for a soft place to stay for the night and a warm place for a meal. "There's not a bite to eat in the whole province," he was told. "We are weak and our children are starving. Better keep moving on." "Oh, I have everything I need," he said. "In fact, I was thinking of making some stone soup to share with all of you." He pulled an iron cauldron from his cloak, filled it with water, and began to build a fire under it. Then, with great ceremony, he drew an ordinary-looking stone from a silken bag and dropped it into the water. By now, hearing the rumor of food, most of the villagers had come out of their homes or watched from their windows. As the stranger sniffed the "broth" and licked his lips in anticipation, hunger began to overcome their fear. "Ahh," the stranger said to himself rather loudly, "I do like a tasty stone soup. Of course, stone soup with cabbage -- that's hard to beat." Soon a villager approached hesitantly, holding a small cabbage he'd retrieved from its hiding place, and added it to the pot. "Wonderful!!" cried the stranger. "You know, I once had stone soup with cabbage and a bit of salt beef as well, and it was fit for a king." The village butcher managed to find some salt beef . . . And so it went, through potatoes, onions, carrots, mushrooms, and so on, until there was indeed a delicious meal for everyone in the village to share. The village elder offered the stranger a great deal of money for the magic stone, but he refused to sell it and traveled on the next day. As he left, the stranger came upon a group of village children standing near the road. He gave the silken bag containing the stone to the youngest child, whispering to a group, "It was not the stone, but the villagers that had performed the magic." </span><br /> <br /> <span>By working together, everyone contributes what they can, achieving a greater good together.</span><br /> <br /> diff --git a/notes/the-stoic-challenge.html b/notes/the-stoic-challenge.html index 98aa63ef..fddce9f2 100644 --- a/notes/the-stoic-challenge.html +++ b/notes/the-stoic-challenge.html @@ -14,11 +14,11 @@ <br /> <span>Gods set you up for a challenge to see how resilient you are. Is getting angry worth the price? If you stay calm then you can find the optimal workaround for the obstacle. Stay calm even with big setbacks. Practice minimalism of negative emotions.</span><br /> <br /> -<span>Put a positive spin on everything. What should you do if someone wrong you? Don't get angry, there is no point in that, it just makes you suffer. Do the best what you got now and keep calm and carry on. A resilient person will refuse to play the role of a victim. You can develop the setback response skills. Turn a setback. e.g. a handycap, into a personal triumph.</span><br /> +<span>Put a positive spin on everything. What should you do if someone wrong you? Don't get angry, there is no point in that, it just makes you suffer. Do the best what you got now and keep calm and carry on. A resilient person will refuse to play the role of a victim. You can develop the setback response skills. Turn a setback. e.g. a handycap, into a personal triumph.</span><br /> <br /> <span>It is not the things done to you or happen to you what matters but how you take the things and react to these things.</span><br /> <br /> -<span>Don't row against the other boats but against your own lazy bill. It doesn't matter if you are first or last, as long as you defeat your lazy self.</span><br /> +<span>Don't row against the other boats but against your own lazy bill. It doesn't matter if you are first or last, as long as you defeat your lazy self.</span><br /> <br /> <span>Stoics are thankful that they are mortal. As then you can get reminded of how great it is to be alive at all. In dying we are more alive we have ever been as every thing you do could be the last time you do it. Rather than fighting your death you should embrace it if there are no workarounds. Embrace a good death.</span><br /> <br /> @@ -38,11 +38,11 @@ <br /> <ul> <li>A setback in a setback, how Genius :-)</li> -<li>A setback in a setback in a setback: the stoic god's work overtime, eh? :-)</li> +<li>A setback in a setback in a setback: the stoic god's work overtime, eh? :-)</li> </ul><br /> -<span>What would the stoic god's do next? This is just a test strategy by them. Don't be frustrated at all but be astonished of what comes next. Thank the stoic gods of testing you. This is comfort zone extension of the stoics aka toughness Training.</span><br /> +<span>What would the stoic god's do next? This is just a test strategy by them. Don't be frustrated at all but be astonished of what comes next. Thank the stoic gods of testing you. 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